Looking for highly effective, fast and lasting results? I have worked with and helped clients release trauma, lift depression, prevent anger, reduce stress, overwhelm, anxiety and unhappiness. They quickly learn how to change how they feel, how to self-regulate moods and negative emotions to be their best in all situations.
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54 customer reviews
Kristal
Therapist
I wanted to take a moment to share my experience with Paula. She has been incredibly supportive throughout my journey. I've been practicing heart math techniques that she introduced me to, which have been invaluable, especially in challenging situations at work.
Thanks to her guidance, I received the all-clear from my doctor and was able to obtain my provisional license. I've even started my driving lessons! Her encouragement and expertise have made a significant difference in my progress. I can't thank her enough for her time and support. Highly recommend!
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
you have been a brilliant student of the process and it is wonderful to see the real you emerge. Congratulations on the driving lessons - really wonderful news
Carole
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy
I’ve seen therapists before, but Paula is totally different. She helped me get to the root cause of my stress and anxiety on the very first session. I’ve also had a number of ‘lightbulb’ moments in subsequent sessions that have been totally unexpected. As a result, I’ve been able to make tough decisions in a calm and focused manner and, at the same time, maintaining or improving relationships with the people around me. I now see things from a different angle, which has actually been life changing. Paula’s solution focussed approach works so well and so quickly and with such a lovely manner. I would certainly recommend Paula to anyone. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for this lovely review Carole, it is so helpful and it is a great pleasure working with you.
Manish
Therapist
I knew from the first session that Paula would help me manage my anxiety and anger management issues.
She helped me how to fiilter out the negatives and see how much more positivity there is in my life.
Her advice will always guide me through my issues.
Paula is a wonderful and patient person and I highly recommend for anyone to get in touch with Paula for help.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
sorry for the late response but just to say how enjoyable our sessions were and so pleased that you achieved the results you wanted
R Sleap-Ireland
Therapist
Paula is a genius! I worked with her for 3 sessions before I saw transformational change in my life. It sounds incredible that it can happen that fast, but it was like that for me. When I came to Paula I was at the end of my rope, unable to make a decision about how to move forward in my life. Working with Paula "unstuck" me from the past and really helped me to move forward. I can't recommend her highly enough. Solution Focused Therapy, was not something I had done before, but it worked wonders for me. If you're reading this, I really encourage you to try working with Paula. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Many thanks for this lovely review Manish. I very much enjoyed our few sessions together.
Darren Leighton-Harvey
Therapist
Paula is a true professional, patient understanding and made me feel instantly at ease and able to express myself. Her help is greatly appreciated.
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Many thanks for this Darren,much appreciated - all I do is help unlock the huge potential already there.
Lou
Counselling
Paula has been a Wonderful help & continues to help me navigate my way through stress & anxiety, giving me practical tips & coping mechanism. . life is hectic & Paula has brought calmness back into my life! I can’t thank her enough .. I’m finally getting my sparkle back More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Many thanks for this Lou,it is really great working with you and seeing the great things you are achieving
mike
Counselling
Paula was fantastic. I went to her angry at the world, after an incedent. what she did was teach me how I was reacting and why. after identifying some basic things the impact was massive. 4 months ago my relationship with my daughter was at risk. now I am that little girls safe place. can't thank her enough life saving result for me. thank you More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks for much for this Mike, it was an absolute pleasure working with you and seeing the real you re-emerge. You were brilliant throughout.
Mark Woodroofe (Woody)
Counselling
Friendly, very knowledgeable, reassuring
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
many thanks Mark, you covered a lot in a short time with really great results
Mike
Counselling
Paula is the most loving person I no. my wife was at her lowest I thought I was going to lose her until we met Paula we had about 6 to 7 sessions and now I got my wife Christine back. I think Paula is an angel sent from up above. Thank you so much. Xxxx More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you so much Mike, I am so pleased that things are back to normal - there is nothing more attractive than a good marriage and you certainly have this.
Mark
Bereavement Counselling
I was at my lowest point when I reached out to Paula for help within 6 or 7 sessions I feel equipped to deal with anything life throws my way.
I cannot thank this lady enough and if I ever felt at a low point again Paula would be the first person I would call.
Thank you 🙏 again Paula.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for this lovely review Mark, much appreciated, and it was a pleasure working with you.
Gabby Moore
Therapist
I made contact with Paula regarding my son . And Paula was professional polite understanding through the whole process .
I can see a real difference in my son he's been given the technique to take him forward .
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Many thanks for this Gabby, it is much appreciated and can see him going from strength to strength.
Sean
Therapist
Paula has been so helpful in helping me gain control of my panic attacks and she is very knowledgeable on the science of anxiety which has helped to understand and control my anxiety. Paula is lovely friendly and has helped me immensely to feel like myself again. Thank you Paula. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
It was a great pleasure working with you Sean - and know you have a great life ahead
Soph
Therapist
Really knowledgeable about the science behind why we react the way we do.
So informative, very much my interests!
Paula is incredibly calming and humourous which play a big role in my level of comfort!
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks Soph, I enjoyed our time together and so pleased with the benefits you achieved, Paula
Andrew
Therapist
I cannot praise Paula enough! Their compassionate approach, deep understanding, and insightful guidance have been instrumental in my journey towards healing and self-discovery. Highly recommended for anyone seeking a supportive and cathartic therapeutic experience. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you Andrew for taking the time and giving this lovely review - it was an absolute pleasure working with you
Samira
Counselling
I found these sessions extremely helpful in allowing me to get back to being me. They allowed me to reflect on where I was and own my feelings. What I had to expect and how to deal with a range of feelings and emotions and how to move forward and become stronger and be more like my normal self but with additional skills to be able to deal with things moving forward without falling back into a dark place. Thank you More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you for taking the time to write this Samira and so pleased you feel back in control as well as calm and balanced.
Ben
After 2 weeks working with Paula I have found that sleep patterns have become much more regular. I am able to sleep well with the meditation mp3.
I have also used the heart math techniques to help calm my anxiety and promote healthier responses to negative feelings. Thank you Paula, I look forward to our continued sessions.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks for this Ben much appreciated and ditto the continuing sessions
Nigel Allen
Counselling
Paula seems to have a good handle on what could be driving some of my behaviours, hence why I will stay with her
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
this is really good to know Nigel, thanks for making the effort and taking the time at the start of the sessions
Becca
Therapist
In the first session, Paula outlines how the brain works in a very clear and understandable manner. I immediately began to think differently about how my brain works, what I am inputting into my brain and what impact that has on me. She applied her knowledge and techniques to my own personal situations. I had 6 sessions with Paula and I am now a lot more intentional, I am present and I am able to focus on the positive things in my life. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for really clear review and it was an absolute pleasure working with you
Daniel
Counselling
After my first session with Paula, it's hard to describe just how much of a positive impact the session had, I instantly felt a change. The work that Paula does with one self is truly remarkable and would highly recommend Paula to everyone. Thank you Paula for helping me on my new journey in life. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks for this Daniel - really really appreciated and all i do is open the way for you to bring the change you need and want.
Kush
Working with Paula has been life changing. Her style of working is truly to understand the individual and working closely to get you to a better place.
The best therapy I’ve received to help get me back to my happy place and know my worth.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thanks Dan, I have only just seen this and really so appreciated. It is really great to work with you and see the changes happening. Thank you for the review
Michelle
Therapist
Thank you so much to Paula she has really helped me the last few weeks. After going to Paula feeling stressed, severely anxious and angry her sessions have helped me massively.
The calming techniques and explaining what is actually happening as I go through these feelings and emotions made me understand exactly what is happening and how to control it & bring myself back back down from the overwhelming emotion I was feeling. Having clearer thoughts now going forward and feeling so much happier after just a few sessions. Thank you so much Paula.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you so much for this Kush, only just seen it. It has been a pleasure working with you as well and to see how inspirational you have become to others
BH
Counselling
Having travailed a vast sea of medicore therapists, Paula is like a bright lighthouse guiding you to a safe shore. She cuts through to the vital parts from Day One and provided me with such valuable tools to help me regulate my behaviour over only a few sessions.
I would heartily recommend her to anyone who's feeling a bit lost, a bit angry and doesn't quite know what to do. She will light up a pathway to a far more fulfilling future.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
many thanks for this Michelle - it was an absolute pleasure working with you and knowing you are well-equipped for whatever life has in store for you
Lewis Clarke
Counselling
I really enjoyed my time with Paula and learned a lot about myself and how I deal with my behaviour and how best to deal with certain situations. I would highly recommend using her service More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you BH for this lovely review, needless to say, it has flooded me with seratonin, dopomine and all the other feel-good chemicals and made my day. many thanks
Natalie Louise
Paula is brilliant. Without even realising it my stress was reduced, I was braver, happier, calmer. Just 3 sessions and I feel so much better. Thank you, Paula.
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for much for Natalie - it really is so appreciated and it was fairly speedy as well.
Adam J
Counselling
Paula is fantastic! She explains how my head is working that’s easy to understand and give me true insight and action to take massively positive steps for self improvement. Since working with Paula my life has changed so much for the better and I’m so thankful More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you for taking the time and that you had the results you wanted.
Alexander Bignell
Counselling
Paula has, so far, been very positive and understanding and I’m looking forward to continuing to work with her to improve.
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks for this Alexander, it is really great to have this at the outset of our session, much appreciated
KK
Life Coaching
I met Paula through Bark a year ago when I was struggling with excessive stress at work. On sending an email, Paula was swift in ringing back to book a discovery session with me.
Over the course of the next few months my mental Health, stress management and decision making abilities massively improved. Thanks to Paula's scientific, practical and human approach to dealing with the root cause of the issues.
Paula explains the fundamentals very clearly, provides long term techniques to managing emotional triggers, follows up and is full of knowledge and experience. This, combined with her perceptiveness and friendliness makes her a coach and counsellor with very unique skills.
I highly recommend Paula for anyone who's struggling with stress, relationships and direction.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you so much for this, KK it is much appreciated and it was a great pleasure working with you - and your referrals for which I also thank you.
Rob
Therapist
I recently had a few sessions with Paula, she is wonderful to work with, and the techniques she taught me were immediately helpful to the problems I was having with controlling my emotions. Would recommend to anyone!
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thanks for this Rob, it was a pleasure and so pleased you gained so much
Adrian
Our 13 year old daughter Sophie has been suffering a severe episode of depression and anxiety to a point where she had completely withdrawn from normality including school and friendship groups.
We sought help from numerous therapists but Sophie's condition was so low that she was unable to talk with anybody.
I was explaining our situation with a friend who recommended Paula as an option. Out of desperation, we contacted Paula who thankfully agreed to speak with Sophie. It was extremely difficult to start with but Paula's patience and incredible gift of understanding people and how to relate to them finally started to work. Paula does not focus on the past but looks forward with a great sense of positivity, optimism and hope. We started to see improvements in Sophie's mood almost immediately, and we are now at a point where Sophie is growing in confidence daily, she is overcoming her fears and anxieties with pride and is a million miles away from where she was before meeting with Paula. We can not thank Paula enough for everything she has done and would recommend her without hesitation.
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you so much for this Adrian, it has been an absolute pleasure watching Sophie blossom to be the person she really is rather than the shadow of herself. This has been intensified by the relief you both felt - as a parent, I know only too well that a child's suffering is so much harder to deal with than our own. Thank you for this lovely review, much appreciated.
Milly
Paula came recommended to me by a friend. I've found my sessions so helpful and have taken so much from them. Paula is always able to offer me advice and useful and straightforward solutions to any challenges I'm faced with.
The techniques I've learned from Paula to use day to day are tools I will always have access to. Paula's visualisation techniques helped me in understanding how the mind works and why we might react the way we do. I feel I've come a long way since starting my sessions with Paula and I have a lot to thank her for. Cannot recommend Paula enough!
Thank you :)
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for the lovely review Milly, you have been an ace student!
Laura
Paula is so friendly and reassuring, she has helped me with my mindset, explaining things in a way which is easy to understand. The stress relief techniques are very effective and will help me going forwards. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you so much Laura, much appreciated and it is always so rewarding so see people return to the person they are meant to be
Chanelle
Therapist
Paula has helped me beyond words. After trying many forms of therapy Paula has finally helped me to find myself, and to find the positives in each day.
For the first time, in a long time I feel full of hope and have the tools I need to carry on in my new journey.
Thankyou Paula
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
You are so welcome Chanelle and it was an absolute pleasure working with you, thank you for the lovely review
Claude
Therapist
Paula, was the first therapist I have sought for advice on a long standing phobia, and during the traumatic and sudden passing of my mother. She helped me centre and reconnect with the world. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you for the lovely review Claude, I am so pleased that you found so much benefit.
Rayon brown
Therapist
Very nice lady making me feeling much better about myself
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Many thanks Rayon for this review, much appreciated
Josie
Therapist
Paula is the best, she helped me in my lowest moments by teaching me exercises to help me stay calm and change my mindset to become more positive. Paula helped me feel calm and at ease, highly recommended! More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
it was great to work with you and thank you for this lovely review Josie
sophia
I’m 16 and currently sitting my GCSES, which can be very stressful. I started sessions with Paula a few months ago to help with this, and found they benefited me so much! ! Paula is amazing at teaching techniques to relieve stress and is a lovely, welcoming person!!! I completely recommend :) More...
Phil
Counselling
Paula has helped me tremendously in the last 6 months , instantly having a calming and thoughtful impact on my everyday life. The techniques Paula has taught me has helped me be a calmer and better version of myself. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thanks for this Phil, it has been great working with you and seeing the meaningful changes.
Josh
Therapist
Even though I did not choose to go through with choosing this website fully Paula in the voicemail sounded kind and willing to help so I would recommend them
Andy Pierce
It is difficult to describe just how helpful Paula has been for me. Not only did she help me with acute health anxiety, but she has also changed my perspective on life and helped me appreciate so much about what we have. She is kind and sympathetic but also extremely perceptive and able to achieve quick results. By helping me understand why I was feeling the way I was, Paula gave me the tools and information to be able to relieve my symptoms and to help prevent them from becoming an issue in the future. Even if someone was feeling good, I would still recommend sessions with Paula as she can help your enjoy life more even if you didn't realise you needed help! More...
Olivia
Counselling
Paula was the first therapist I enquired with and within the hour I already received a phone call booking in my first appointment. Paula has been incredibly helpful and has turned my life around in a short space of time by giving me the coping skills and tools needed to manage my anxiety, depression and traumas. She has pushed me to step out of that comfort zone and helped me set healthy boundaries and helped me gain control back in my life. I am forever greatful as I am not the same person from 5 months ago. More...
Sj
Counselling
Paula is fantastic. She has a highly knowledgeable and very hands on approach. This has not only ensured that I have made incredible progress in a relatively short space of time, but has also helped me in understanding the “why’s” of the inner workings that were causing me trouble in the first place. I previously have had therapists who would just let me talk- but Paula guided me in finding answers, talking through with me both big and smaller, more everyday obstacles. She has helped me find confidence and peace. I could not recommend her highly enough. More...
Sophie williams
Counselling
amazing, she was so lovely to speak with!
Esme
Couples Counselling
Paula was lovely and amazing to work with incredibly helpful and really succeeded in improving our relationship to being healthy again. I’m so very grateful to her.
Jenna
Couples Counselling
Paula has been absolutely fantastic. We came to her in a moment of desperation and with only a few sessions, there have been considerable changes seen and felt. We now both feel confident that we have the key tools needed to navigate through those stressful situations in life! More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you Jenna, it has been a very rewarding and fulfilling time for me as well.
Mr Malcolm Miles
Therapist
Right from the start Paula made me feel at ease, I had no idea what I was letting my self into but I new I had to do something. She talked me through the way she worked and her technique and started me on my way to recovery , I was only able to have two sessions with Paula but in that time I had been able to calm my self down and felt so much better about myself. I can’t thank her enough for her help I would recommend anyone to contact Paula if they need help. Thank you Paula so much.. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
it was wonderful to work with you Malcolm, thank you so much for the lovely review
Hayley Yates
Counselling
What a lovely lady! Couldn't recommend enough.
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
many thanks Hayley and for the referral as well
David
Couples Counselling
Paula is excellent, she is very understanding about my issues and uses excellent techniques to help me resolve my problems.
After every session I feel revived and full of energy and happiness.
So happy for your help, thank you
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Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
thank you for this lovely feedback David, I love the fact that you felt energised and full of happiness after the sessions. Wonderful!
Jennifer Hughes
Counselling
From our first meeting, Paula has been a delight to work with. I didn't think anyone could understand me and my issues but I have been proved completely wrong. Paula has a unique way of understanding you and her advice and therapy is wonderful. More...
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you Jenny, it has been a joy working with you and so pleased for you that things are changing on many levels for you.
Craig williams
Counselling
Paula is amazing I can’t believe how much she is helping me . She is so easy to talk to and understands. I’m so lucky I found her
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you so much for this Craig, it is an absolute pleasure to be a part of your journey and you have been a brilliant client. Thank you for taking this different route and having trust in the strategies and science to bring this rapid turnaround.
Ant
Counselling
Really good sessions that have helped me. Paula was approachable and relatable but most importantly to me she knows the science behind the techniques and tools she shared. Very helpful!
Reply from Paula Ruane stress, anger anxiety and depression specialist
Thank you for this Ant, it has been a pleasure and your turnaround was extremely fast. Your great attitude was a big part of this. Much appreciate the review, thank you again.
What do you love most about your job?
Watching the fast release of anxiety, stress and trauma in clients, leaving the real person, empowered, confident and in calm control. Clients love learning the self-regulation techniques which immediately bring back control into their lives.
What inspired you to start your own business?
Realising that much of what was on offer to people today for mental, emotional and physical wellbeing wasn't working. The increase in medication, rising levels of stress in all its forms in over 74% of people in the UK seemed wrong and unacceptable. I knew there had to be a better way, a lasting way. Since 2007/8 I have used a unique system in both workplace and 1-2-1 sessions, always with lasting results.
Why should our clients choose you?
People come to me who want a permanent solution instead of a temporary fix ? I see many who have been in talk therapy and/or CBT which was helpful but hasn’t brought the lasting change they want and need.
Can you provide your services online or remotely? If so, please add details.
I see people face to face in my Essex rooms but work mainly online around via Zoom
What changes have you made to keep your customers safe from Covid-19?
During Covid, it was online only. Post Covid I have followed the UK Health and Safety Guidelines.
Depression, Stress , Anxiety, Anger
You didn't get to this stage overnight and changing how you feel and react can be quicker than you imagine. Symptoms of these anxiety disorders includ low self-confidence, low self-esteem, a fear of change and the inability to see your strengths, focusing only on the negative. These can anchor you to the same spot. Our work will return a sense of freedom and lightness allowing you to be the optimum version of yourself at all times
Anger management,control and reduction
From the initial consultion, you will experience an immediate sense of relief as you immediately start to take back control. This stops anger from impacting relationships, performance, sleep and health. Anger interferes with every area of life and learning to control it changes everything.
Trauma and PTSD
I provide support and strategies to immediately release the grip of PTSD. The programme means you begin to release and change the impact of the past on your mind and body.
Anticipatory Grief, loss and bereavement
Very often, as well as the overwhelming sadness of the approaching loss or of losing someone, there are mixed emotions. You may feel anger, guilt, resentment or a mix of it all. With a gentle but simple releasing technique, you can resolve the conflicting emotions to you to live you life in a fuller way as well as ultimately grieve and mourn at your own natural and healing pace
Couples Therapy
As long as you both want to achieve a win/win resolution - either to restart or end the relationship, avoiding unnecessary hurt, acrimony and resentment, you will benefit from the programme. By using the powerful communication strategies all my clients learn helps to change how you feel about each other - what ever the decision .
Life Direction and Confidence Coaching
Enabling people to move ahead with confidence, to feel lighter, more able and to cope better with what ever life puts in our way. After only a few session, things become clearer, more positive and possible.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy
Clinically proven, Solution Focused Hypnotherapy fast tracks results to release irrational fears, obsessive thoughts, negative forecasting, phobias and bad habits. Additional benefits include proven IBS recovery, boosted optimism and happiness.