With 17 Years NHS experience and 5 years experience of working alongside people struggling with unresolved grief and loss, I offer a structured person centered approach looking through a trauma informed lens with every client that works with me.
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24 customer reviews
TJ
I came to Paul at the end stages of therapy, after navigating an extremely difficult period in my mental health journey.
I felt directionless and lost, trying to find my footing again after some major life events and the deep emotional work I had done with my therapist. I knew I needed support in transitioning into the next chapter of my life, and that is when I found Paul.
Paul coached me through a wide range of challenges, helping me build on the foundation I had already laid. He was always patient, kind, and deeply understanding, but also unafraid to challenge me when I needed it, which I truly appreciated. We connected over literature, and he introduced me to insightful books that helped me reflect and grow. Through our sessions, I began to understand myself more deeply and started to shape a new direction for the post therapy version of myself.
The grief program, in particular, was transformative. Paul helped me understand what grief really is and identify how it was showing up in my life. I was able to process a profound family bereavement and, with his guidance, create a new relationship with my loved one after their death. I was able to let go of lingering guilt, resentment, and emotional weight. I now feel lighter, freer, and more at peace.
I believe Paul could help anyone who is struggling with grief, loss, or simply feeling stuck or directionless. He has a deep understanding of emotions, anxiety, and the internal programs and parts we all carry. His ability to gently disrupt unhelpful patterns and assumptions is incredibly powerful.
If you are considering working with Paul, know that you will be met with compassion, insight, and a safe space to grow. His support has been invaluable to me, and I am so grateful for the clarity and healing I have found through his coaching.
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Janet Wells
Depression Counselling
I was struggling to cope with depression and felt I had to find help. Through Bark Paul contacted me and offered me an introductory session to see if he would be able to help me.
I knew a lot of my problems stemmed from the death of my mother and how this had never been resolved with the consequences having been at the root of many of my problems.
Paul was easy to talk to, he listened and through the programme he guided my thoughts and encouraged me to se different ways of looking at things.
It was very traumatic at times but gradually I have been able to think more rationally about my life, and look at where I am now and where I want to be in the future and I feel the depression is lifting.
Overall it has enabled me to get things into perspective and with Paul’s guidance look to the future more positively.
I would encourage anyone with deep rooted issues stemming from loss that has never been resolved to consider this programme.
Paul has been very supportive and empathetic. Allowing me to talk about things at my own pace while keeping me focussed.
I shall always be grateful for the help he has given me.
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Tim Stratford
Life Coaching
I came to Paul having been dealing with a large amount of loss and grief. Paul was incredible in helping me understand and deal with the grief lift my head up and move forward with my life. I have previously been to therapy however I found Paul much more beneficial to me as he talks to you as a fellow person and puts a great spin on how to approach my challenges. I will certainly seek more of Paul guidance in the future and will actively recommend his services. Thanks Paul... More...
Paul
My partner contacted Paul as she was worried I wasn’t coping with the loss of my dad. Started my sessions. Found the course really worthwhile, paul has a very good way of helping you with your problems. He’s understanding and easy to talk to. He sorted me out I feel normal again. Highly recommend him if you are going through a bad patch. Keep up the good work Paul. More...
Anne Albertella
Bereavement Counselling
I lost my Dad last October. He was my rock. I normally try to deal with this type of stuff myself. While looking on the internet for tips on how to deal with grief, I came across Paul or should I say he found me. He got in touch and explained how it worked and I, for once, decided to give it a go. Wow is all I can say as it was not like any counselling session I had been at before. I felt very relaxed from the beginning and soon was not afraid to open up about how I felt. Paul is very professional, while caring and understanding and non-judgemental at the same time. Hechas given me the tools to deal with my Dad's passing and move on. He has also taught me to see who I really am and I have to say I kinda like the real me. Thank you Paul for everything you have done. More...
Zek
Life Coaching
I was in a not so good place, battling with my thoughts and emotions. I could not see the wood from the trees, I needed help in dealing with this.
Paul was very patient and provided me with the perfect platform to speak freely and to deal with my emotions in a healthy manner.
With Pauls help I am now in a good place. I feel more equipped and better at dealing with life's challenges. I am more in tune with my emotions and more accepting of things.
This benefited me in so many ways, my social circle is better than its ever been and I generally feel good. I feel like I turned a leaf.
I have no hesitation in recommending Paul to anyone facing life's challenges.
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C Sweet
Bereavement Counselling
I had come to Paul to help deal with some passed grief that i had not address fully.
I found Paul and the sessions we had together to be a great benefit and really helped me understand what i was going through at a tough time.
I would highly recommend Paul, he was someone I found easy and comfortable to speak with.
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Timmy English
Paul, is a absolute legend! Having a really rough time in my life, after loosing my mum. and I needed help from somebody. And I'm so lucky to have met who I met. First meeting paul, he just gave off a verry comforting feeling. Verry well spoken, verry friendly, just gave me the feeling, that he was one of the lads. loved the fact he just wears normal clothes. Not dressed in a suit. I verry quickly trusted Paul, and told paul exactly why I was there, and what i needed help with. After 8 weeks, i had literally had a massave weight lifted off of my shoulders! We worked through a book together, witch was alot to do with the grief that I was going through. and I managed deal with, and get my life back on track, I would recommend paul to everyone!! Words cant describe how happy my life is now! And that's because of the tools that paul has showed me! Top dude!!! More...
Lukas
My reason for working with Paul was because I was trying to deal with the grief of my Dad and I was also wanting to work on the other kinds of grief I had in my life but I didn’t have the tools to deal with them.
When I first started this program with Paul I found it different from anything else I’ve done before and at sometimes challenging. But when I finished the course with Paul I found it was great relief and I found a new understanding on how to cope with my emotions & anxiety’s.
I believe if you do decide to work with Paul it will help you out a lot as for me he was very helpful & supportive and allowed me to speak my truth with no judgment.
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Lois
Life Coaching
He taught me really good techniques and tolls for present and future purposes. Easy to talk to so I would strongly recommend.
Harry Hughes
I came to Paul for some coaching to discuss and find strategies to better existing and previous relationships with family members. My mother had been diagnosed with cancer again and wanted to talk through this with someone and the impact it had on our relationship. I felt Paul would be someone who I could be comfortable with someone I knew would listen well. I found the programme quite liberating and free'ing, allowing myself to let go of some thoughts and emotions. I am feeling lighter now that I have finished the programme and stronger in my mindset and approach to relationships going forward with certain people. I think coaching can benefit anyone whether there is specific areas to be disucssed or not and would recommend using Paul to dig a little deeper and challenge yourself in ways you might not be able to yourself. Thanks Paul. More...
Kieran
Bereavement Counselling
I reached out to Paul as I lost my dad a few years ago and I had a lot of emotions I needed to let go of from anger to grief. Paul was brilliant and helped my to come to terms with the my loss and to let go of all the built up emotions and feelings I had locked away. He was more than just someone to talk to and was easy to get on with and cared as much about issues I had along with my own life and likes etc. He was easy going and very patient and would highly recommend him. More...
M.M
as a 15 year old, a lot of the things i say or do are just described as “oh it’s a phase” or “she’s just a teenager”. however working with paul meant a lot because he really validated my feelings and helps me get through these confusing stages in my life. he’s a great person to talk to and i felt comfortable to be able to talk to him very quickly. i 100% would recommend him as he’s helped me a lot. More...
Debbie
Bereavement Counselling
I reached out to Paul initially, because my whole world seem like it was falling apart, and having encountered mental illness before I knew not to let it get too severe before seeking help!
The first thing Paul said to me was.
“You’re not broken”.
You just need to learn some life skills to help you through challenging times that we all go through, and I will teach you them!!
Those 3 words have rung through my ears on so many occasions and those three words have helped me come to terms with things that are happening around me, my sessions with Paul have been truthfully empowering!!
I think once somebody explains to you, everybody has good and bad days. Everybody loses somebody in their life and everybody has emotional trauma. It kind of brings home that, yeah everybody does! it’s how you’re taught to deal with them that’s made the most impact in life!
There’s not a word in the dictionary that can stand that man up to the level that he deserves!
He’s truly changed my life and my mindset and continues to do so, because he’s only ever at the end of the phone or a text away if I need him!
Not many people in his profession, do that stay with you to the end?
He’s on my phone as Lifesaver, and truthfully he really is!
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TA
Paul is great to work with! He is very easygoing and patient.
Jess Baker Smith
Incredibly patient, wise, knowledgable and kind, Paul really helped rebuild my confidence when I had been knocked below low. I couldn’t recommend a better coach. Thanks for all your help Paul. “Just keep brushing your teeth” More...
Ben
I got in touch with Paul when I was going through a particularly tough part of my life where I felt I didn’t have the answers to what was coming my way.
Speaking with Paul was my release and it was an space where I could be completely vulnerable. I could just talk and get everything off my chest then come up with positive strategies and goals to help. His calm demeanour and non-judgmental approach was just what I needed.
In short, if you are thinking about coaching, even just a bit then give Paul a shout. You won’t regret it.
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Sophie
Working with Paul was so eye opening. I completed a Grief Recovery course with him over a number of weeks and found it so useful to be able to identify and explore parts of my grief that I had never been able to uncover or put a name to before.
Throughout the course I felt as though a weight was lifting from my chest and felt he was giving me the tools I needed to be able to process my grief and feelings on my own terms.
Paul made me feel very safe in his presence and secure knowing I could be more vulnerable without ever being judged and that I would be supported while doing so.
I would wholeheartedly recommend him to everyone I know and look for ward to working with him in the future.
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CH
Paul's empathetic and gentle approach will put you at ease straight away. He knows his stuff and the Edu-Therapy programme makes such a difference in your grief.
Tony Aylmer
Paul has coached my daughter with performance anxiety, he has given her the tools to plan, prioritise and adapt. She now focuses on positive outcomes regardless of the task, exam or performing on the Ice. I wound recommend Paul for positive outcome coaching regardless of where you are in your life. More...
Jan
I throughly enjoyed working with Paul from the moment I met him I felt comfortable,I worked with Paul on the grief recovery program after losing my husband Paul helped me massively he gave me confidence in my actions he is a great listener & very professional Paul is easy to talk too. I would recommend Paul & I will definitely see him again. More...
Helen
Paul has been coaching me regularly for over 6 months. He is professional and calm in his approach and I feel able to discuss various issues in a safe and non judgmental environment. I would strongly recommend him . He is an excellent coach More...
BJ
It was a profound journey working with Paul. After 10 years of many losses and feeling deeply stuck, finding it hard to help myself delve into what I had pushed down to cope. Paul allowed space for me to express, understanding and helped with techniques to allow me to learn to process the many emotions I was experiencing. Paul has a compassionate manner, but will also encourage you to look at things from different perspective, with gentle encouragement. My connection with myself and my emotions and by experience of journeying with grief has changed significantly the way I live my life, process my emotions and view the world. If you want to do the work and allow change to happen. I highly recommend you to talk to Paul to see if you want to work together. More...
Chloe
Paul is simply fantastic.
From the moment we met, I felt safe, listened to, comfortable and secure to be vulnerable. I have had life coaching sessions with him, and also Grief Recovery, both of which helped my mental wellbeing massively.
Paul is extremely adaptable and kind. For me, he always manages to challenge my thinking sensitively, and helps me view things in a different light, allowing me to make some changes for the better in my every day life.
Paul is a saint. Absolutely adore the man and will continue to see him for many years to come.
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What do you love most about your job?
Being a heart with ears to Allow clients the space to feel heard and explore how they can become a better version of themselves.
Watching people heal the wounds in their hearts and turn them into scars
What inspired you to start your own business?
After leaving school at 17 with no A-levels and no real direction, I took some time in life finding what i wanted to do as a profession.
17 years ago, I joined the Ambulance Service as an emergency care assistant and found a real love for supporting people with mental health problems but sadly I felt very poorly equipped with the tools to be able to help.
In 2020, I stumbled across a student coaching course which caught my eye with the slogan, “its easier to make strong children than it is to fix broken adults” that caught my attention. On a personal and professional level this resonated with me.
Since gaining my qualification, I have clocked up over 200 coaching hours with students and young adults on a 1-1 and group basis.
After enrolling in a course to help children with loss in 2019, this led me to train as an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist, and have successfully helped many clients move through and beyond over 40 different types of loss that we may encounter in life.
Upon working with so many grieving people, I realised this was a passion close to my heart. I have since qualified as an Edu-Therapy Specialist, which allows me to offer a cognitive behavioural process for healing grieving hearts.
Why should our clients choose you?
My clients choose to work with me based on what they feel is best for them. I only recommend working with me once we have had a chemistry session and the client feels i am the right support to guide them through this part of their journey
Can you provide your services online or remotely? If so, please add details.
I can accommodate working online and have numerous clients who choose to work remotely with me.
Life Coaching
Life coaching is about working on areas in life you feel stuck, lost or heavy and do not currently have the tools that you feel work best for you. we can partner to help you work out what you want from life and what outcomes or goals you would like to achieve.
Edu-Therapy Grief and relationship resolution
Edu-Therapy™ is about resolving the emotional pain and grief that comes from losses in life and in relationships.
2 month program
A Cognitive Behavioral Process to find grief and relationship resolution
8x90 min Edu-Therapy™program sessions weekly
2x60 min Coaching sessions
4 month program
8x90 min Edu-Therapy™program sessions weekly
8x60 min Coaching session sessions bi-weekly (remote-In person or walk and talk sessions)
12 month program
8x90 min Edu-Therapy™program sessions weekly
20x60 min Coaching sessions bi-weekly (remote-In person or walk and talk sessions)