Understanding Me
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I have a vast experience in helping people with their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
16 customer reviews
Danielle
Therapist
Simon is fabulous! Very understanding and helped immensely! Thank you!
Paige
Counselling
Simon has been such a star to me he has really helped me grow my confidence that I didn’t know I had, help me control and cope with my overthinking and to accept appraisal. He did some great work with me about my trauma in past relationships and help me understand what I went through and how to overcome everything from that. Simon is truly amazing with what he does and I couldn’t recommend him enough, super friendly, kind and can have a laugh which is what you need to feel comfortable and become open. Thank you again Simon x More...
Viviene Watson
Counselling
I found Simon so helpful and understanding with my situation. I was given small tasks to do which I found most helpful in understanding me and what I was going through. He would also encourage me to contact him in-between sessions if I required it. I have recommended him to other people. Why not give Simon a try he is very helpful and understanding. More...
LH
Therapist
Huge thanks to Simon for all his help over the past few months. He has given me the tools I needed to react better to situations, and helped me to ‘untangle the nest’ to better understand why I’m feeling a certain way in the first place.
I feel like a different person from when I started, and that’s thanks to him !
Definitely recommend.
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Danny
Therapist
Simon has been a massive help for me and my relationship helping me to understand why I was starting to feel the way I was & how I could work on things to be able to feel better
Nora
Simon is one of the best people you could speak to. His experience in trauma, overthinking and stress is to the next level. What I loved mostly about Simon was that whenever I had a panic attack he’d actually make time for me to speak to him and calm me down. He has excellent ways/perspectives to include in our thinking and has helped me greatly. More...
Sean Fannin
Counselling
Ground breaking advice. Simon has completely changed my thought process and given me the tools to manage and problem solve issues.
I’ve seen other people in the past, which was a complete waste of time. I couldn’t recommend Simon enough. If you’re a man with things you need to address, this is definitely the guy for you.
It good knowing his number is in my phone, just in case ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
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paris yahyaei
Counselling
I was so nervous about getting therapy and didn’t think I would benefit from it at all and I didn’t think I would be able to talk or open up. On the first initial call Simon made me feel so comfortable that I wanted to tell him everything there and then. He’s so helpful and kind and patient and you can tell he genuinely cares and isn’t just doing it because it’s his job. He’s like an angel I got sent when I really needed someone. If you need someone to talk to there isn’t anyone better, I thought I would hate therapy but I look forward to our sessions and I feel like I’ve made an improvement after every single one. Could go on for days saying good things but yeah he is the best get booked in now!!! More...
Lesley
Counselling
I cannot recommend Simon enough. His calming nature abd open personality put me at ease instantly. The sessions did not make me feel like therapy and that helped massively as I not the most outspoken person when it comes to talking about my feelings. I am now equipped with all the tools I require to a happier and stress free life. I am in control, and Simon helped me realise this. Simon cannot help enough, even happy for quick messages inbetween booked sessions. Thank you for all your support Simon! More...
Janet
I would 100% recommend Simon ……….
anon
Counselling
It has been a pleasure working with Understanding Me.
He has greatly helped me look at things from a different perspective.
From all the advice and information we discussed i feel i am now better equipped with a positive mindset.
The friendly relaxed session made me feel at ease.
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Aimee
Therapist
Simon immediately made me feel comfortable to open up and talk to him which in the past has been a big struggle for me. After every session I feel more positive and have a brighter outlook on life. I’m so grateful for this and I would highly recommend him. More...
Rosd
I couldn't recommend Simon high enough, really great advice and very easy to get along with. Has really helped me with my stress and anger so much already. I feel a lot calmer each session.
Yasmine Drake
Therapist
They were very helpful and understanding of me. They made me feel comfortable to open up to them about my struggles which is sometimes hard for me to do so. Overall, my experience has been great. More...
MARY AVER
Therapist
Excellent and supportative
We will speak again
Katelyn Richards
Therapist
Amazing service. Has really helped me with the out look on life and solutions or make my life a lot easier.
What do you love most about your job?
I worked in the military 22 years, working with victims of domestic violence and also children who had been abused. I completed an Msc in child forensic studies and law and gained a level 5 CBT diploma. I have been working with violent offenders for the past 4 years and enjoy seeing people realise how their actions have not only effected them, their partner but also their children. I enjoy seeing the light bulb moment in someone when they realise that their problems or issues can be resolved. I also work with people around substance misuse, self esteem, confidence and parental conflict.
What inspired you to start your own business?
I am now in a more relaxed pace employment working with troubled families who need all round support. This has allowed me the time to explore a more therapeutic private approach to people.
Why should our clients choose you?
I like to help others and build a trust with someone so that can feel relaxed and enjoy the sessions. I believe I have evolved listening skills and will not provide options or advice but pragmatic tools to help you and reflect back to you what you’ve said so you can hear it for yourself. I will help you see new perspectives and draw your own conclusions. I will also listen to what you don’t say, as well as to see patterns in the way you discuss things. Through observation I will notice your body language and mannerisms and help you notice these aswell. I am easy to talk to and wont be nervous, strange, or uncertain of what to say, which will make you feel comfortable, and able to open up about what troubles you. I am always congruent. I am reliable and will inform you about cancellations. I always believe in the person I am working with and provide ‘unconditional positive regard‘. I will always respect your privacy and not share what you say with anyone, outside of my onw legalities around supervision.
I enjoy seeing what I call the lightbulb moment when people realise that they can use the tools I have provided.
Can you provide your services online or remotely? If so, please add details.
If local I can be flexible to meet face to face, but also online or telephone if the person is more comfortable with that.
What changes have you made to keep your customers safe from Covid-19?
I am up to date with my injections and will always wear PPE if required to do so.
Anger Management
Anger management is an approach designed to help you manage the emotional and physiological arousal that accompanies anger. As it's often not possible to change the circumstances or people that elicit anger, anger management can help you recognize your triggers for anger and learn to cope with them more effectively.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
CBT is based on the concept that your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and feelings can trap you in a negative cycle.
CBT aims to help you deal with overwhelming problems in a more positive way by breaking them down into smaller parts.
You're shown how to change these negative patterns to improve the way you feel.
Unlike some other talking treatments, CBT deals with your current problems, rather than focusing on issues from your past.
It looks for practical ways to improve your state of mind on a daily basis.
Parental Conflict
Some level of arguing and conflict between parents is often a normal part of everyday life. However, there is strong evidence to show how inter-parental conflict that is frequent, intense and poorly resolved can have a significant negative impact on children’s mental health and long-term life chances.
Child aggression
NVR stands for Non-Violent Resistance, it’s an approach with its roots in the civil rights movement which has been developed to address children’s violent or self-destructive behaviours. NVR has gained in recognition and popularity due to the realization by many parents and professionals that, for children who find it hard to be supervised or guided by adults, reward and punishment approaches can lead to escalations in violence. Furthermore, in the face of violent or destructive behaviours, most parents do not want to be drawn into responding violently themselves yet find that trying to use words to reason with their child is also ineffective. NVR offers a chance to address these behaviours whilst also conveying love to their child. I consider NVR to be a philosophy as much as a therapeutic approach but that is not to say that it doesn’t also include some very practical, action-oriented ideas for parents to use in their homes.
Sessions are with parents only and the advantage of this is that the approach does not need the child or young person to want to address their behaviour for work to commence. Work might begin with an in-depth exploration of escalation patterns within the home and also how ‘present’ the adults are to their child. In NVR, presence refers not only to parents’ physical availability but also their presence in their child’s mind. Most of us seek to instil certain values, beliefs and morals into our children by teaching them what is right and wrong and how to behave appropriately. When there is a high level of violence or aggression in the family home, parental presence can be lost meaning our influence is not strong enough to help our children behave appropriately.
