Desired State
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Multiple locations
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Integrating the knowledge and self-awareness I have gained through my own life experience, I offer insight and understanding to others, particularly those processing the unusual or uncomfortable in their lives and relationships, in an acceptable way for them.
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5 customer reviews
Elaine
I have had the privilege of collaborating with Alec over the past few months, and it has been an enriching experience. Working with him as my coach has resulted in significant personal growth.
Alec possesses a profound understanding of the intricacies of personal development and has skillfully created a safe and nurturing environment for me to explore my innermost thoughts, ask pertinent questions, and unlock my potential and aspirations.
Throughout this journey, Alec has evolved from being solely my coach to becoming a trusted mentor. I cannot overstate the gratitude I feel for the profound impact his mentorship and coaching have had on my life. His guidance and support have been contributory in my progress, and I am confident that he would be an optimal choice for anyone seeking an exceptional coach.
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Thank you Elaine. Knowing the achievements and growth of the time we have been working together that is some considerable feedback. It has been my pleasure.
Yunie
Alec has been really helpful in my personal and professional journey, as a coach he guided me moving from my fix mindset to be the person I want to be with the growth mindset. Being accountable is really changing my life. Thank you Alec for your guidance, for me you are an inspiration not just a coach but also a mentor. More...
Reply from Desired State
Thank you, Yunie.
Darren Burton
Always great working with Alec. He is so easy to talk to. A great listener
Reply from Desired State
Thank you Darren, it has been a pleasure to work with you through the many changes and challenges you have faced and triumphed.
Erika N.
Alec is warm and provides and safe and protected space for you to explore deeply within. He allows room for you to get in touch with your wiser self and guides you in a confident and competent way. His humor puts you at ease and his knowledge is limitless. Highly recommend working with Alec as much and as often as you can for his perspective and wisdom. More...
Reply from Desired State
Thank you Erika. That is high praise indeed considering the source. Much appreciated
Tami Djernes
I asked Alec to help with the emotional reactivity I experienced with family members. I felt safe telling him anything, and his calm and caring way of listening and asking questions helped me find the calm I needed to make wise decisions and implement them. His balance of emotional understanding and rational thinking is very effective. I highly recommend Alec. More...
Reply from Desired State
Thank you Tami, It was a pleasure to work with you and to help you explore your wise mind. A.
What do you love most about your job?
The ah-ha moments when a client recognises that the change they want to see is sometimes only a single perspective shift away, and entirely within their control.
What inspired you to start your own business?
I came into the field of coaching and personal development through decades of experience with trauma and crisis in the UK emergency services. I want to help those that want to help themselves to find a sustainable, acceptable and self-directed paths through their lives. There is also huge drive to tackle mental health issues but the treatment pathways are unable to cope with demand, coaching and personal development are closely aligned with person centred management of mental health concerns.
Why should our clients choose you?
Alec's purpose as a former first responder is to use his experience and personal understanding of the challenges he has faced to help other people overcome residual exposure to trauma and live healthy, meaningful lives. He offers a different perspective on trauma and traumatic incidents; how to cope with them, and to equip people to manage post-trauma reactivation situations.
Your DesiredState is that place in which you are able to enjoy your life as you want to experience it, free from unhelpful anchors to the past and without anxiety for the future. Living optimally, Now.
Using a combination of Modern Applied Psychology practices DesiredState offers a person-centred approach to resolving personal tensions and helping clients to attain well-formed outcomes.
Can you provide your services online or remotely? If so, please add details.
Online/remote works extremely well! I would say that it is preferable for most people.
What changes have you made to keep your customers safe from Covid-19?
Online/remote working or working outdoors / distanced.
Coaching
All aspects of life transition. Career, health, and relationships.
Using all aspects of modern applied psychology my aim is to empower the client to discover their own motivations, beliefs and values.
Spiritual understanding
I encourage the client to consider aspects of their belief systems to identify their own spiritual consciousness and find their spiritual truth.
Reiki
Reiki treatments in person or remotely, teaching reiki levels 1-3 (Shoden - Okuden - Shinpiden)
CBT
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. With the client, I examine the origin and impact of their belief systems, challenging and reframing activating events and allowing the client to consider cognitive distortions.
NLP
Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Using core values and beliefs clients identify their pre-suppositions.
With Clean Language, I help clients explore their beliefs with their own metaphors and representational systems. Where desirable these can be emphatically challenged, reframed and rephrased into well-formed outcomes.
Hypnotherapy
Please contact me for your hypnotherapeutic questions and requirements.
Life Coaching
After decades of mentoring, training and leadership lessons both learned and taught I am able to offer wisdom gained through knowledge and experience to guide you in navigating your life tensions and problems
Counselling
Based on Prof. Gerard Egan's skilled helping model.
Mindfulness
I offer meditations and guidance however, I seek to offer clients a conscious awareness of their thoughts actions and beliefs throughout their days. This allows the client to be mindful of and for themselves in any situation.
Modern Shamanic Practice
Please contact me with your questions and shamanic requirements.
Specifically, client journeys, power animal retrieval, soul part retrieval and integration, soul remembrance, and soul-conducting (psychopomp.)
Traumatic risk management assessment (TRiM)
Assessment of exposure to traumatic incidents, risk assessment of the likelihood of development of chronic conditions associated with trauma.
