Hi I am Emma Spiegler, a Love, Relationship and Sexuality Coach supporting people with a whole range of issues including:
- Stress (stress at work or at home)
- Self Esteem (such as not feeling good about yourself and wanting to increase your sense of self worth)
- Relationships (such as finding communication difficult in relationships, communication breakdown, coming up against the same problems in relationships and dating)
- Sexuality (such as low libido, mis match in libido in relationship, not able to orgasm during sex)
I provide and safe and supportive space both online via Zoom (it's like Skype) and face to face in North London.
For the last 15 years I have worked in the mental health and addiction sectors. Prior to becoming a coach I founded and managed an award winning charity for 10 years that supported people impacted by a loved one's substance misuse to drugs and alcohol.
My work is necessarily ground-breaking and immersive. My coaching programmes are exclusively tailored to you and your desires and goals around stress, self esteem, relationships, and sexuality, using structured, results-focused coaching methods backed with detailed written notes and personalised audio practices that support you in uncovering what the core blocks are that are holding you back from fully resolving or approaching your issues from a different perspective.
I work from a trauma informed perspective that addresses the deep-rooted core beliefs and survival strategies we take on as children or at certain points in our adulthood that have become outdated. These are the beliefs and patterns that affect the way we deal with stress, our self esteem, the types of dynamics we create or re-create in relationships and how we experience our sexuality and pleasure (or lack of pleasure) in life.
Together we will explore what has been blocking you and what you want to invite more of into your life through:
-The power of breath work. Through the power of breath we switch off our thinking brain and switch on our feeling brain. We enter into the realm of the body’s language and wisdom, forming a direct connection with the unconscious parts of ourselves.
-Tools and practices to feel sensations in your body. As we drop into and listen to what our bodies sensations are telling us we can transform our relationship with our bodies and past and current stress. We learn how to support the nervous system and build emotional resilience.
-Tools and practices that support you to discover and integrate different parts of yourself. Inner work includes embracing the old stories and parts of ourselves that are hidden. It also includes uncovering the parts that can empower you to move towards your goals.
-Real and tangible ways to build your self esteem and a loving relationship towards yourself (not just saying it but really feeling it).
-Practices and meditations that will bring you into connection with your sexual energy supporting you to release shame, guilt and fear and create new neural pathways for sexual pleasure.
-The power of ritual. Ritual speaks directly to the unconscious parts of us.
I’ll guide you in the transformational power of coming out of your mind and into your body and support you to build new patterns of thinking supporting you to increase your self esteem, feel calmer, improve your relationships and access greater levels of enjoyment and pleasure in all its forms.
Emma is an amazing inspirational human being with whom I have connected with very well. We worked together for about 6 months (4 calls). I contacted her as I was experiencing anxiety and this was affecting my life since I had started a relationship with my current partner. My first thoughts were that my past relationship had left a negative imprint – being cheated on, a lack of self-esteem, jealousy and no trust. I wanted to improve on that, and consequently my self-development journey with Emma started. I was recommended books to read, do personal audio practices and self-reflections. This all helped me to connect with myself and observe what was going on in my life and in my relationship. In my own interest of calming my inner scream and unpuzzling the unhappiness mystery, I was highly committed to my practices. Even though, I went through an emotional roller-coaster, I succeeded. I learned a lot – about different relationship attachments, connecting with my inner child, connected breathing (meditation), and positive self-talk. I also learned how my current relationship and mismatched attachment styles could be the cause of my anxiety. This experience opened my eyes widely. I am ready to face any situation and grow mentally even more. Armed with the tools provided, I know I can. I am very grateful to Emma leading me through this journey and I would like to recommend her to all who is ready for inner healing. More...
Several things had gone wrong in my life and I had run out of hope. Frankly, I didn’t really want to live any more, but I had responsibilities that meant that I had to stay alive!
Not sure what to do, I was looking for someone to help me find some order - to stop the rot. What I found was Emma, who brought whole new dimensions into play. Thank God I did.
Emma helped me understand and improve the relationship I have with myself, improving my self-worth and confidence. She helped me to visualise a brighter future that is both exciting and feasible. And she helped me to draw on the friendships and love I share with others to bring me fresh hope and purpose.
Emma’s techniques of meditation and breath work were new to me but I felt that I had nothing to lose by trying them. I still use them every day to energise myself, find safety when I need it, and always restore my sense of centred self-worth and purpose.
Emma’s instinct for what I needed was incredible. She had so many exercises and ways of opening up new avenues for me. Her application in our sessions was brilliant, but she gave so much value on top in writing up goals and discussions, in preparing recorded meditations, and in prompting me with encouragement between sessions.
Emma’s compassion for others is inspirational. I felt that I could trust her with sensitive information, which meant that I could be completely open and honest, which in turn meant that I got more out of it all.
I thoroughly recommend Emma and hope that others will have as great an experience as I have had. All the best. More...
I’ve finished a year of coaching with this awesome human... Emma Spiegler; since starting my journey into various different therapies of personal healing & growth, 20 years ago, Emma’s work, support & practices have been THE most transformative, because she incorporates the mind AND the body, tailoring her work specifically to each person.
This work, combined with all the psychology work I’ve done, has consolidated much healing and this year has been one of the best experiences I have had with a coach so far! I can recommend her highly for anyone who’s experienced traumatic lives and now wishes to thrive.
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Emma is just the best. So present and supportive to my needs. She really quickly gained my trust and created a safe space.
Emma was there every step of the way and even when I was being my own worst enemy and playing victim. She helped me step out of it and keep moving forward. Bringing her calm, nurturing nature as well as needed excitement during sensitive and tough topics and experiences at each step along the way made it all worth it. Sometimes someone can see your strengths before you can and Emma was born to be a coach. Providing me with copious amounts of detailed notes of each session meant I could so easily review what I had done.
It's so good having Emma in your corner wanting the best for you. x More...
I contacted Emma for help dealing with a sexless marriage and attachment-threatening traumatic events with my wife and my parents.
I was amazed from the very first session — suddenly what seemed like an impossible situation no longer seemed insurmountable and I had a renewed hope. And the detailed notes and follow up support was way beyond what I expected.
Emma is very adaptable. From the very beginning when there were potential barriers to starting the programme and then throughout the sessions; she was very respectful, listened and adapted her approaches based on feedback of what worked and what didn't work for me. She did an amazing job helping and supporting me to be true to myself and my values.
The balance between what I call the tactical and strategic was perfect — that is helping me deal with the challenges in front of me in a given week as well as a longer-term view for sustainable self improvement. She helped me to focus on myself and how I can satisfy my own needs. She introduced me to a number of new areas to explore and continue my personal journey.
It was such a pleasure to work with Emma and her positivity is contagious. It was great to have someone in 'my corner' and I can't thank her enough for all of her help this year. More...
I contacted Emma because I kept encountering the same problems relationship after relationship. I needed to break the cycle.
From the first discovery session, I felt very comfortable in her presence and I knew that I wanted to work with her. Emma is honest, charming and funny; our 90 minute sessions flew by, there was never a moment I felt I couldn’t open up to Emma, it felt so natural to do so.
With Emma, I have addressed the relationship issues that kept reoccurring; I have also learned so much more about myself. This includes what I offer in a relationship, the values I seek in a partner, and the non-negotiable qualities I want in a partner.
Our sessions made it clear to me the woman I want to be with; the sessions also gave me the confidence to say no in order to be happy.
Our time together improved me as a person and opened me emotionally. Emma has improved my self-esteem and I now know how to be committed and belong to a relationship.
Not only did Emma help improve my relationships, but the benefits provided have also spread into many other aspects of my life. There were things in life I wanted, but could never see myself achieving. However with Emma’s guidance not only can I visualise them happening, I know my journey to achieving them has begun.
Emma, I am truly grateful for what you have done for me, I am so glad to have met you.
You are a fantastic coach and an amazing role model.
You exceeded my expectations and I hope you continue to touch other lives the way you have touched mine x More...
Working with Emma has been such a magical journey for me and it was exactly what I needed to do for years. Although I never knew how to start making a change or which direction to take, or worse, just accept that things would remain as they are and just get on with it.
Until I met Emma.
She supported me to connect with myself from a safe and trusting place that never felt embarrassing or awkward. Emma has helped me to open up and wake up. I have felt so uplifted and inspired since we have been working together. She has been my catalyst, my navigator, my teacher, steering me in the direction I was searching for.
I have gained self respect, confidence and power in myself since working with Emma. She is herself powerful, connected and grounded in the work that she does and yet she remains professional with a honest and humbling approach.
I thank you Emma for ‘turning on the light’ for me. It has been my pleasure and I am truly blessed to have you coach me. More...
Hey Neha, Thank you so much for this review! What I loved about working with you was just how much you dived in to all the practices in between the sessions. You absolutely gave it your 100% commitment to the transformational process. So you made my role as a coach easy. So pleased to hear you gained so much from our time together. Emma x
Emma coached me through some really rough spots where I just felt stuck and afraid of moving forward in a certain area of my life at the time.
Not only did Emma have an amazing ability to listen in closely to me and hone in on what it was that might be blocking me, she was very adept in guiding me through it all in a way where at the other end I felt loved and cared for and also very powerful – which was exactly what I needed.
Emma created for me a personalised practice along with a meditation that I still listen to many many months later. It’s there when I need it and it still helps me even today.
I’m very grateful for the gift Emma has in guiding and holding people through the rough spots. She herself is a true gift to the world. More...
Thank you A for such a glowing review. It was an absolute pleasure to work with such an accomplished woman and to see you feeling so powerful at the end of our work together.
I decided to work with Emma as a coach because she specialised in working with individuals whose lives had been affected by childhood adversity.
There had been a lot of alcohol use in my family when I was child that resulted in emotional co-dependency and pain for me that was extending into my adult life and affecting particularly my relationship and career. I felt held back in these parts of my life, like I was re-creating disempowering ways of communicating in my relationship and giving too much power to my parents in who I was choosing to be in the world.
The work I did with Emma was truly phenomenal. She helped me in ending these disempowering family dynamics - which felt scary because I was changing a lifetime worth of relating - by integrating wounded parts of my psyche from childhood and by finding my own source of truth and power within. My relationships with my family have shifted to become much more harmonious and 'adult' like. I feel free to be who I am without worrying that I am hurting my family, while being able to love them AND be true to myself. I don’t feel disempowered in my parental relationships anymore, I feel strong and self-assured. I am able to consciously create the healthy dynamics and communication I desire and check those old family habits at the door. In terms of my career, this work has allowed me to soar and fully express myself creatively without constantly worrying if I am doing the right thing my family would approve of. This has been life changing and doing this work has been some of the most integral and transformational work of my life. I am deeply grateful to Emma and the wisdom and insight she offers through her work. It is so unique and her years of experience and expertise in this field have shifted the direction of my life forever. Thank you. More...
Thank you K for allowing me to guide you as your coach through a year long journey. I very much enjoyed working with you, and feel that you achieved so much due to your dedication to the process and commitment to the home practices! It's been incredible to see how much things changed for you.
Emma’s honest and welcoming approach to coaching is a game-changer. I knew reading her beautifully vulnerable bio I wanted to work with her.
I deeply desired a female coach who could relate to my chaotic upbringing and family addictions - someone who I felt safe with, who challenges taboos but also someone I could have a good belly laugh with. That’s Emma! We worked together for 2 months, 2x per week. Each session was profound - I was able to feel, see, hear and dialogue with parts of my inner self that had been acting out for years. These inner parts of me were creating more and more physical, emotional, relational and spiritual discomfort to get my attention. And Emma’s professional, incredibly skillfull and perfectly magical approach really helped me meet myself and accept more of myself in astonishing ways.
I also loved that each session was followed by a very thorough and inspiring email recounting the experience. I am so excited for anyone who gets to work with Emma!
Hi Emily, thank you so much for posting a review here and for your thoughtful reflections on our work together! It was a real honour to work with you and be there as a witness/coach/guide throughout the whole journey of you meeting these different parts of yourself and coming into more self love and self acceptance.
Over the last six months of working with her, Emma has been a consistent source of care and support in my growth. I am now at a place where I feel like my relationship with desire, sexuality and women has been utterly transformed. I feel so much more clarity, confidence and ease in this area of my life. Emma has been a crucial part of this transformation, helping me gain insight, providing accountability and being a cheerleader for my success. I am ready to continue to create many more amazing connections, relationships and fun in my life. I am so happy to have shared and been helped on this journey by Emma and am looking forward to working with her more! More...
Hey Jesse, it's so great to hear how much our coaching journey over the last 10 months supported you in your goals to gain more clarity, confidence and ease! I really appreciate you taking the time to post a review here. Thank you.