I am a neutral party for couples, with a mission to learn and understand each of your needs and goals. I specialize in balancing differences in communication and intimacy styles, with the goal of enhancing these areas and enriching relationships.
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7 customer reviews
Browny
Relationship and Marriage Counseling
Happy to have found a counselor like Paul who truly welcomed our " dirty laundry" without judgment and willing to help. I appreciated his free session and opportunity to get to know him first and see what he could offer . He introduced us to the Enneagram personality types which to me was Gold in terms of dealing with everyone in my life and not just my partner. Knowing my type and my stage of maturity has helped me strive to be the best version of myself. Knowing my partners type also changed my expectations and approach to different situations with him. I like the concept that " you can never change your type" but can grow and evolve into healthier versions of other types. I Recommend Paul to anyone seeking to improve their relationships with people in general, and especially with their significant others. I feel so empowered. More...
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
Thanks Browny for your kind words! I have really enjoyed working with you and your partner and it gives me great pleasure to see you very slowly but surely make progress. I look forward to continuing to support you in your relationship journey.
Jasmina C Boyer
Couples Counseling
Just the initial consultation we felt really great with Paul. I know a four-star is kind of soon to give someone we’ve only had a consultation with but when you know you know. We are looking forward to these official sessions with Paul. More...
Cortne Artis
Couples Counseling
The first meeting went well. Paul is very easy to talk to. He’s relatable and personable. My partner and I loved him.
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
Thanks for your kind words, Cortne! I look forward to continuing to work with you and your partner.
Samantha G.
I found him to be non-judgemental and easy to talk to and a great listener. His knowledge of the enneagram system was a big help and my fiancé and I still refer to that. Our wedding is coming up and we are so glad we took the time to do this - give me peace of mind. Would totally recommend him for pre-marital preparation. More...
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
Thanks Samantha. I hope the wedding went well and I wish you much happiness.
Emily T.
Counseling with Paul was a delightful experience. This has given a boost to my marriage of 11 years. I had anxiety with being labeled as the "uninterested" person of the couple, and this comprehensive coaching experience helped me realize there is nothing wrong with me, it was just a case of having gone my whole life being misunderstood! We did marriage therapy a couple of years ago and that helped, but coaching with Paul was very specific, learning the nuts and bolts. My husband, too, has grown from the experience, and we are a revitalized sexy couple. His knowledge of the "erotic blueprints" is excellent. Thanks Paul!! More...
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
Thanks for your kind words! Best wishes to you.
Andrew + Natalie
Paul did a wonderful job with our relationship counseling! He is easy to talk to, and made us feel comfortable. We loved the engaging discussions we had with Paul, and feel like we came away with lots of good advice. Would highly recommend!
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
So glad you enjoyed our time together. I did, too! Best wishes to you.
Kathryn
Paul has a very caring nature and is easy to talk to. Both my husband and I felt comfortable being open and honest discussing subjects that previously we found hard to talk about. He helped us start our journey of reconnection after years of resentment and feelings of defeat. We always knew Paul was in our corner, working on our behalf, to bring new levels of connection and intimacy into our marriage. More...
Reply from Paul Paiva, Couples Counseling
Thanks - it was fun to work with you guys!
What do you love most about your job?
Seeing a couple who was considering abandoning their relationship, start to have an amazing, loving, and intimate connection. Often their newfound connection and satisfaction is greater than what they had years ago. I like seeing couples break-through their issues and find joy and satisfaction.
What inspired you to start your own business?
My own relationship challenges. I went to counselors and coaches, studied, and did my own training, which I think enhances my college education in counseling.
Why should our clients choose you?
I'm trained as a relationship counselor, and I am certified and licensed as an intimacy coach. My specialty is couples who struggle with communication and intimacy differences. If you used to have good communication and intimacy, I can journey with you reconnect with joy and satisfaction.
Can you provide your services online or remotely? If so, please add details.
Yes, I offer video meetings which you can do from your desktop, laptop, mobile, or tablet device.
What changes have you made to keep your customers safe from Covid-19?
I am fully vaccinated, and I follow all local and state protocols.
Marriage & Relationship Counseling
Differences in communication and intimacy styles, loss of trust due to poor communication and/or infidelity.
Relationship Counseling & Intimacy Coaching
❤️ In your long-term relationship, you had good/excellent sexual chemistry at the beginning, but after 5, 10, 20+ years the chemistry has waned.
❤️ You have felt misunderstood by a partner who has (hurtfully) labeled you uninterested or low libido?
❤️ Your efforts to communicate to your partner what pleases you have been unsuccessful.
❤️ You are best friends, but have little or no sex. You are in love and committed but unsure of the future.
❤️ After you married, exploring intimacy was enjoyable, but without much sexual satisfaction.
Pre-Marital Preparation
Communication styles, values, family planning, love and intimacy, spiritual/religious values.
After the initial free discovery session, choose from:
2 session BASIC PREP, or
5 session IN-DEPTH PREP