Ellie Lockhart Coaching and Hypnotherapy

Havening, NLP and hypnotherapy work harmoniously to support you to meet your work goals and compassionately support your teams with confidence and alignment to your values. It also ripples out to your personal relationships with your family and friends too. These techniques will have you energised and aligned with the inner critic less present with new beliefs formed to match the person you truly aspire to be.

Trauma can be with a little ‘t’ or big bold ‘T’. As humans we all experience trauma. Our clever brain encodes negative experiences and then is always on guard to avoid it next time. However, sometimes the coding outlives its usefulness and holds us back or sabotages our adult goals. The techniques I use are gentle and compassionate with little actual detail required to be shared to resolve and dissolve away the trigger response in the brain and body. Gone are the nerves, rapid heartbeat, and scattered thoughts when there is no real danger. Replaced by confidence, calm and courage.

Examples range from nerves with public speaking, presenting to stakeholders through to major trauma of sexual abuse/assault, violence, and first on the scene for car accidents, traumatic deaths of loved ones, family abuse/neglect.....

Is PTSD hijacking your day-to-day life? Our brain is so clever in the way it works to keep us safe. Sometimes the encoding is not always appropriate for our life now. The techniques I use support the part of the brain that encodes the trauma to recover, leaving the objective memory and wisdom intact. Clients notice an immediate shift in stress levels in the 'now' and diminished anxiety and agitation in relation to the past. Results are quick and typically within 4-6 sessions. Most clients report they feel an improvement even after the first session.

The added bonus is that you do not need to share distressing details to get the results. We touch on the trauma only momentarily. How much the client verbally shares is up to the client, but it is not necessary to share detail that has held you back from getting support before.

Is a specific fear or phobia getting in the way of you living your life? Does it prevent you from seeking medical help? Going to the dentist? Going on holiday? Trusting people? Techniques are fast and permanent to enable to live your life without being hijacked by your phobia or fear.

There is a view in my profession, and shared by me that not everyone who experiences trauma develops an addiction but everyone who develops an addiction has experienced trauma.

The techniques I use are gentle and compassionate and go deep to the trauma and heal and reconcile the past. You still have the objective memory and the wisdom left behind but the emotional trigger response that has you reaching for your numbing substance of choice is typically dissolved away, or significantly diminished. Clients report a sense of ease and peace in their body and mind that they didn’t know was possible before. Furthermore, I do not require you to share a lot of detail of your past that further encode the trauma making it even stronger. We spend the smallest amount of time connecting to the trauma response as possible, you verbally share as much or as little information as you wish, then we use techniques that gently dissolve the trauma response in the amygdala leaving the working memory intact.

The trauma was encoded by way of an electro chemical response that creates a receptor in the amygdala (our alert system) and it is permanently encoded. Keeping us safe with the highest intent. It doesn’t know that the danger has now passed. However, my techniques can create a different electro chemical response that dissolves away the receptors relating to specific traumas, allowing the body to respond by reducing cortisol and adrenaline that while helpful in an actual emergency is dangerous to our long-term health when we have high levels of these chemicals in our body as part of our normal day-to-day life.

The techniques can significantly support other work you may already be undertaking to beat an addiction.

Depression and sadness are typically brought on through our past experiences and traumas. We can also inherit trauma from previous generations and science suggests as far back as seven generations. It doesn’t need to be a life sentence though. The techniques I use are evidence based, gentle and compassionate to help heal past trauma in the amygdala, the primitive part of our brain that acts as a super radar alert.

Clients report big shifts in as little as 4-6 sessions, and it doesn’t take the months and years that talk therapy can take. I don’t advocate for you to stop your medication and encourage you to share the journey with your GP to manage prescription meds.

Anxiety can paralyse our wish for calm and ease as we worry about the future and what could happen. Like a hijacker taking control. It doesn’t have to be this way. We can overcome the hijacker with techniques that connect you to your strengths, values and goals with compassion and ease. The power of your mind is immense and while I facilitate the structure and techniques, the magic happens from within your mind and vivid imagination. Your imagination creates the possibilities of what might happen causing your anxiety so it can work its magic to reverse and replace with more helpful possibilities. Clients’ report feeling an ease and calm in mind and body that was previously unknown to them. Typically, significant shifts can occur in as little as 4-6 sessions.

The price of love is loss. It is part of the human experience. However, the trauma of how the loss came about may be something that takes up so much space it is hard to grieve the relationship loss. The techniques I use can allow you to reconcile with how the loss came to be and leave you with the natural love and sadness to allow you to grieve more fully and heal.

Typically, we aren’t born with stress and depression. We are almost a blank canvas. Life happens as part of the human existence and our brain can encode trauma from as young as 7 months gestation. Recent studies have shown that we can also inherit trauma from up to 7 generations back. Trauma that isn’t even our own! The good news is that the techniques I use can dissolve the trauma receptor in the brain for events in your past and support you to create the life you want, free of old triggers that have held you back.

Relationships can be tricky especially when old hurts and wounds are layered over each other. Or we assume we know what someone else is thinking. The words we use and the way in which we deliver them can wound – intentionally and unintentionally.

The techniques I use help to heal from relevant trauma associated with the relationship(s) while supporting new ways of communicating more effectively to minimise misunderstandings, and to give you tools to quickly rectify mistakes in communication or understanding.

In my experience men are better at communicating anger, or at least find it easier than women. Anger is more acceptable and expected from a man. Anger is a normal and healthy emotion to experience from time to time rather than a default position. Women often hide anger as resentment, as they have never been allowed to communicate anger. It’s there but with a different window dressing. Often cis girls grow up feeling the need to be good, quiet, happy, nurturing compared to cis boys where it can be seen as an essential strength in some cultures. It doesn’t make it ok though.

Anger and resentment typically build up in layers. If one thing happened in isolation it probably wouldn’t be a big deal, but when repeated exposure over years builds up it can create an anger management control problem for the person and their family or work colleagues.

The good news is that there is help at hand, to support you through to understanding and recoding old stuff (trauma in therapist land language) that created this default position or quick to flame, so you can move forward without it holding you back or repeatedly bouncing you back into patterns you want to shift.

That inner feeling of waiting to be called out as an imposter, not clever enough, or a generalised belief of not deserving of more, unworthy and not enough. These are all limiting self-beliefs that your mind coded in to keep you safe at the time. They had a purpose once but are no longer helpful. Your amazing imagination can recode them out, to update them at the very deepest level to more life affirming beliefs linked to your adult goals and dreams.

Our negative habits are so frustrating, aren’t they?! We start out feeling super motivated, this is it, this time I won’t fall back, we keep at it for a few days and see some changes.. and then wham! We’re back almost where we started and not even sure how it happened!

It is not about you being unmotivated, undisciplined, lazy or whatever other criticism you are telling yourself. It is all about the unconscious part of our mind keeping us safe. It only cares about survival, and it has done a perfect job so far. You’re alive. The knack is in convincing the unconscious mind that the new way of being is safe. To bring all parts of us into alignment.

My techniques help get you into the creative structure and with tools to stick to it until it becomes the new normal, supporting you along the middle where the risks of falling are.

Sometimes we come to a crossroad and wonder what is next? or we reach a threshold and know something has to change but we don’t know what.

With gentle, curious enquiry, and techniques we uncover your source code of who you are and your natural gifts. Connecting in to your true nature and purpose to live your best life regardless or age and stage.

Knowing, really knowing who we are, provides us with an anchor during the stormy times and more awareness of opportunities that we may have been previously blind to.

Relationships can be tricky especially when old hurts and wounds are layered over each other. Or we assume we know what someone else is thinking. The words we use and the way in which we deliver them can wound – intentionally and unintentionally.

The techniques I use help to heal from relevant trauma associated with the relationship(s) while supporting new ways of communicating more effectively to minimise misunderstandings, and to give you tools to quickly rectify mistakes in communication or understanding.

You may be struggling to grow the relationship you want with your partner, children, work colleagues etc. By resolving old trauma, it can rid you of the triggers that have you communicating in a way that is not helping the relationship.

Once the trauma/old negative feeling is no longer in the driving seat, you set the course direction you want with clarity and the practical tools to support you.