Darren Elliott, OnlineTherapyOntario.com

My own childhood traumas, difficult relationships and therapy journey has lead me to become a therapist. It is meaningful for me to work with you as you navigate your journey. I want others to have the support and understanding I did not have, especially around narcissism and LGBTQA2S+ issues.

Humans don't live in isolation, your relationships matter. I bring compassion and caring and I believe that loving kindness is healthy behaviour for humans, we are wired for connection. I provide honest feedback for your awareness of who you are with me.

I have first-hand experiences from my life regarding ADHD, borderline, narcissism and narcissistic abuse which has given me a unique perspective. I consider that most mental health issues are co-created relationally and it's meaningful for me to work with you and your family or chosen family no matter your situation. Your personal work is all about who you are in relation to others and reaching for the life you desire with support to let your kinder, more loving, trusting, caring parts to emerge. No one feels their kindness in the midst of being under attack, trauma can make it feel like you are. Criminals are traumatized, they have been relationally injured, usually by other humans, and act out those injuries. Emotional neglect is injurious for a child, we develop emotionally in relationship. We need to be felt with, seen and understood in our experience. Many parents do not have these relational skills, their parents may not have had them to pass on. World wars caused a generation to ignore and suppress negative emotions for survival, and they thought it was strength. It's one of the contributors to narcissism, needing to be strong alone causes narcissistic defences.

I'm good at seeing the big picture of what is going on, I am trauma informed and often work with intergenerational trauma.

Whatever you grew up with is normal for you. I know this too well. We adapt to our world.

You don't know if you have a traumatized worldview, perhaps unable to trust safe others fully, or seeing most or many people as unsafe of unfriendly when in fact most people are safe and friendly in reciprocity. I will pick-up on your worldviews and challenge where they have come from, uncovering hidden and unprocessed traumas along the way.

Yes, I have been seeing clients online since January, 2021.

Most of my work is online. I have opened my home office for clients who want to meet in-person once or occasionally in Cabbagetown, Toronto, while also meeting regularly on Zoom. I have an air filtration device that filters viruses but is not medical grade.

I am comfortable to disclose that I am up to date with 6 COVID vaccines, and I take the yearly flu vaccines, but I will not inquire as to your status which is your personal health information that you can disclose or not.

You are always welcome to wear your mask, and you can request that I do the same.