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For over 16 years, people just like you, come to me for faster and better, long-lasting results. They want to release trauma, reduce stress, overwhelm, anxiety and unhappiness. You learn how to change how you feel, to self regulate your moods and emotions for the best outcomes in any area of your life.

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9 April 2024

Therapist

I cannot praise Paula enough! Their compassionate approach, deep understanding, and insightful guidance have been instrumental in my journey towards healing and self-discovery. Highly recommended for anyone seeking a supportive and cathartic therapeutic experience. More...

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Thank you Andrew for taking the time and giving this lovely review - it was an absolute pleasure working with you

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1 April 2024

Counselling

I found these sessions extremely helpful in allowing me to get back to being me. They allowed me to reflect on where I was and own my feelings. What I had to expect and how to deal with a range of feelings and emotions and how to move forward and become stronger and be more like my normal self but with additional skills to be able to deal with things moving forward without falling back into a dark place. Thank you More...

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Thank you for taking the time to write this Samira and so pleased you feel back in control as well as calm and balanced.

6 March 2024

After 2 weeks working with Paula I have found that sleep patterns have become much more regular. I am able to sleep well with the meditation mp3.
I have also used the heart math techniques to help calm my anxiety and promote healthier responses to negative feelings. Thank you Paula, I look forward to our continued sessions.
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thanks for this Ben much appreciated and ditto the continuing sessions

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4 March 2024

Counselling

Paula seems to have a good handle on what could be driving some of my behaviours, hence why I will stay with her

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this is really good to know Nigel, thanks for making the effort and taking the time at the start of the sessions

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16 February 2024

Therapist

In the first session, Paula outlines how the brain works in a very clear and understandable manner. I immediately began to think differently about how my brain works, what I am inputting into my brain and what impact that has on me. She applied her knowledge and techniques to my own personal situations. I had 6 sessions with Paula and I am now a lot more intentional, I am present and I am able to focus on the positive things in my life. More...

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thank you for really clear review and it was an absolute pleasure working with you

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25 January 2024

Counselling

After my first session with Paula, it's hard to describe just how much of a positive impact the session had, I instantly felt a change. The work that Paula does with one self is truly remarkable and would highly recommend Paula to everyone. Thank you Paula for helping me on my new journey in life. More...

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thanks for this Daniel - really really appreciated and all i do is open the way for you to bring the change you need and want.

18 January 2024

Working with Paula has been life changing. Her style of working is truly to understand the individual and working closely to get you to a better place.
The best therapy I’ve received to help get me back to my happy place and know my worth.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Thanks Dan, I have only just seen this and really so appreciated. It is really great to work with you and see the changes happening. Thank you for the review

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11 January 2024

Therapist

Thank you so much to Paula she has really helped me the last few weeks. After going to Paula feeling stressed, severely anxious and angry her sessions have helped me massively.
The calming techniques and explaining what is actually happening as I go through these feelings and emotions made me understand exactly what is happening and how to control it & bring myself back back down from the overwhelming emotion I was feeling. Having clearer thoughts now going forward and feeling so much happier after just a few sessions. Thank you so much Paula.
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thank you so much for this Kush, only just seen it. It has been a pleasure working with you as well and to see how inspirational you have become to others

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11 December 2023

Counselling

Having travailed a vast sea of medicore therapists, Paula is like a bright lighthouse guiding you to a safe shore. She cuts through to the vital parts from Day One and provided me with such valuable tools to help me regulate my behaviour over only a few sessions.
I would heartily recommend her to anyone who's feeling a bit lost, a bit angry and doesn't quite know what to do. She will light up a pathway to a far more fulfilling future.
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many thanks for this Michelle - it was an absolute pleasure working with you and knowing you are well-equipped for whatever life has in store for you

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3 December 2023

Counselling

I really enjoyed my time with Paula and learned a lot about myself and how I deal with my behaviour and how best to deal with certain situations. I would highly recommend using her service More...

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thank you BH for this lovely review, needless to say, it has flooded me with seratonin, dopomine and all the other feel-good chemicals and made my day. many thanks

19 October 2023

Paula is brilliant. Without even realising it my stress was reduced, I was braver, happier, calmer. Just 3 sessions and I feel so much better. Thank you, Paula.

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thank you for much for Natalie - it really is so appreciated and it was fairly speedy as well.

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17 October 2023

Counselling

Paula is fantastic! She explains how my head is working that’s easy to understand and give me true insight and action to take massively positive steps for self improvement. Since working with Paula my life has changed so much for the better and I’m so thankful More...

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Thank you for taking the time and that you had the results you wanted.

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13 October 2023

Counselling

Paula has, so far, been very positive and understanding and I’m looking forward to continuing to work with her to improve.

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thanks for this Alexander, it is really great to have this at the outset of our session, much appreciated

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10 October 2023

Life Coaching

I met Paula through Bark a year ago when I was struggling with excessive stress at work. On sending an email, Paula was swift in ringing back to book a discovery session with me. Over the course of the next few months my mental Health, stress management and decision making abilities massively improved. Thanks to Paula's scientific, practical and human approach to dealing with the root cause of the issues.

Paula explains the fundamentals very clearly, provides long term techniques to managing emotional triggers, follows up and is full of knowledge and experience. This, combined with her perceptiveness and friendliness makes her a coach and counsellor with very unique skills.

I highly recommend Paula for anyone who's struggling with stress, relationships and direction.
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Thank you so much for this, KK it is much appreciated and it was a great pleasure working with you - and your referrals for which I also thank you.

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8 October 2023

Therapist

I recently had a few sessions with Paula, she is wonderful to work with, and the techniques she taught me were immediately helpful to the problems I was having with controlling my emotions. Would recommend to anyone!

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Thanks for this Rob, it was a pleasure and so pleased you gained so much

1 August 2023

Our 13 year old daughter Sophie has been suffering a severe episode of depression and anxiety to a point where she had completely withdrawn from normality including school and friendship groups. We sought help from numerous therapists but Sophie's condition was so low that she was unable to talk with anybody.
I was explaining our situation with a friend who recommended Paula as an option. Out of desperation, we contacted Paula who thankfully agreed to speak with Sophie. It was extremely difficult to start with but Paula's patience and incredible gift of understanding people and how to relate to them finally started to work. Paula does not focus on the past but looks forward with a great sense of positivity, optimism and hope. We started to see improvements in Sophie's mood almost immediately, and we are now at a point where Sophie is growing in confidence daily, she is overcoming her fears and anxieties with pride and is a million miles away from where she was before meeting with Paula. We can not thank Paula enough for everything she has done and would recommend her without hesitation.
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Thank you so much for this Adrian, it has been an absolute pleasure watching Sophie blossom to be the person she really is rather than the shadow of herself. This has been intensified by the relief you both felt - as a parent, I know only too well that a child's suffering is so much harder to deal with than our own. Thank you for this lovely review, much appreciated.

26 July 2023

Paula came recommended to me by a friend. I've found my sessions so helpful and have taken so much from them. Paula is always able to offer me advice and useful and straightforward solutions to any challenges I'm faced with. The techniques I've learned from Paula to use day to day are tools I will always have access to. Paula's visualisation techniques helped me in understanding how the mind works and why we might react the way we do. I feel I've come a long way since starting my sessions with Paula and I have a lot to thank her for. Cannot recommend Paula enough!
Thank you :)
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thank you for the lovely review Milly, you have been an ace student!

15 June 2023

Paula is so friendly and reassuring, she has helped me with my mindset, explaining things in a way which is easy to understand. The stress relief techniques are very effective and will help me going forwards. More...

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thank you so much Laura, much appreciated and it is always so rewarding so see people return to the person they are meant to be

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5 June 2023

Therapist

Paula has helped me beyond words. After trying many forms of therapy Paula has finally helped me to find myself, and to find the positives in each day.
For the first time, in a long time I feel full of hope and have the tools I need to carry on in my new journey.

Thankyou Paula
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You are so welcome Chanelle and it was an absolute pleasure working with you, thank you for the lovely review

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3 June 2023

Therapist

Paula, was the first therapist I have sought for advice on a long standing phobia, and during the traumatic and sudden passing of my mother. She helped me centre and reconnect with the world. More...

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Thank you for the lovely review Claude, I am so pleased that you found so much benefit.

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3 June 2023

Therapist

Very nice lady making me feeling much better about myself

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Many thanks Rayon for this review, much appreciated

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2 June 2023

Therapist

Paula is the best, she helped me in my lowest moments by teaching me exercises to help me stay calm and change my mindset to become more positive. Paula helped me feel calm and at ease, highly recommended! More...

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it was great to work with you and thank you for this lovely review Josie

16 April 2023

I’m 16 and currently sitting my GCSES, which can be very stressful. I started sessions with Paula a few months ago to help with this, and found they benefited me so much! ! Paula is amazing at teaching techniques to relieve stress and is a lovely, welcoming person!!! I completely recommend :) More...

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1 April 2023

Counselling

Paula has helped me tremendously in the last 6 months , instantly having a calming and thoughtful impact on my everyday life. The techniques Paula has taught me has helped me be a calmer and better version of myself. More...

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thanks for this Phil, it has been great working with you and seeing the meaningful changes.

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23 February 2023

Therapist

Even though I did not choose to go through with choosing this website fully Paula in the voicemail sounded kind and willing to help so I would recommend them

6 February 2023

It is difficult to describe just how helpful Paula has been for me. Not only did she help me with acute health anxiety, but she has also changed my perspective on life and helped me appreciate so much about what we have. She is kind and sympathetic but also extremely perceptive and able to achieve quick results. By helping me understand why I was feeling the way I was, Paula gave me the tools and information to be able to relieve my symptoms and to help prevent them from becoming an issue in the future. Even if someone was feeling good, I would still recommend sessions with Paula as she can help your enjoy life more even if you didn't realise you needed help! More...

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3 February 2023

Counselling

Paula was the first therapist I enquired with and within the hour I already received a phone call booking in my first appointment. Paula has been incredibly helpful and has turned my life around in a short space of time by giving me the coping skills and tools needed to manage my anxiety, depression and traumas. She has pushed me to step out of that comfort zone and helped me set healthy boundaries and helped me gain control back in my life. I am forever greatful as I am not the same person from 5 months ago. More...

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10 January 2023

Counselling

Paula is fantastic. She has a highly knowledgeable and very hands on approach. This has not only ensured that I have made incredible progress in a relatively short space of time, but has also helped me in understanding the “why’s” of the inner workings that were causing me trouble in the first place. I previously have had therapists who would just let me talk- but Paula guided me in finding answers, talking through with me both big and smaller, more everyday obstacles. She has helped me find confidence and peace. I could not recommend her highly enough. More...

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9 January 2023

Counselling

amazing, she was so lovely to speak with!

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5 November 2022

Couples Counselling

Paula was lovely and amazing to work with incredibly helpful and really succeeded in improving our relationship to being healthy again. I’m so very grateful to her.

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26 October 2022

Couples Counselling

Paula has been absolutely fantastic. We came to her in a moment of desperation and with only a few sessions, there have been considerable changes seen and felt. We now both feel confident that we have the key tools needed to navigate through those stressful situations in life! More...

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Thank you Jenna, it has been a very rewarding and fulfilling time for me as well.

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22 October 2022

Therapist

Right from the start Paula made me feel at ease, I had no idea what I was letting my self into but I new I had to do something. She talked me through the way she worked and her technique and started me on my way to recovery , I was only able to have two sessions with Paula but in that time I had been able to calm my self down and felt so much better about myself. I can’t thank her enough for her help I would recommend anyone to contact Paula if they need help. Thank you Paula so much.. More...

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it was wonderful to work with you Malcolm, thank you so much for the lovely review

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29 September 2022

Counselling

What a lovely lady! Couldn't recommend enough.

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many thanks Hayley and for the referral as well

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16 August 2022

Couples Counselling

Paula is excellent, she is very understanding about my issues and uses excellent techniques to help me resolve my problems. After every session I feel revived and full of energy and happiness.
So happy for your help, thank you
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thank you for this lovely feedback David, I love the fact that you felt energised and full of happiness after the sessions. Wonderful!

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8 August 2022

Counselling

From our first meeting, Paula has been a delight to work with. I didn't think anyone could understand me and my issues but I have been proved completely wrong. Paula has a unique way of understanding you and her advice and therapy is wonderful. More...

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Thank you Jenny, it has been a joy working with you and so pleased for you that things are changing on many levels for you.

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6 August 2022

Counselling

Paula is amazing I can’t believe how much she is helping me . She is so easy to talk to and understands. I’m so lucky I found her

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Thank you so much for this Craig, it is an absolute pleasure to be a part of your journey and you have been a brilliant client. Thank you for taking this different route and having trust in the strategies and science to bring this rapid turnaround.

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5 August 2022

Counselling

Really good sessions that have helped me. Paula was approachable and relatable but most importantly to me she knows the science behind the techniques and tools she shared. Very helpful!

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Thank you for this Ant, it has been a pleasure and your turnaround was extremely fast. Your great attitude was a big part of this. Much appreciate the review, thank you again.

4 January 2022

As a busy (and stressed) MD I have worked with Paula as a stress and resilience specialist for almost four years. Her knowledge and expertise and the incredible difference they make are so valuable to me in managing and preventing stress and burnout. Paula has also worked with my team - her workshops are a huge value add to our wellbeing programme.
If you are looking for a simple but highly effective approach to stress management Paula is the best.
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22 December 2021

Before I started working with Paula I felt overwhelmed and lacking in focus. The biggest thing I got out of working with Paula is a learning a set of simple and effective tools that I have been using to stop and prevent this. As a result I am having a happier life and confident I can tackle new things in the future. Thank you very much! More...

21 December 2021

I have known Paula for about 18 months now, having first got to know her through her fantastic group Vertue (which I recommend taking a look at). More recently I had the benefit of her expertise in helping resolve some stress issues which were causing me to feel overwhelmed.

As a female business owner I find myself being pulled in many directions on a daily basis but in the summer, after a death, I found myself hitting a wall and unable to move forward. My business and personal life was being negatively affected and I had reached a point where I felt I couldn't get back in control without some help.

My first port of call was Paula who quickly gave me tools to get on my feet again and within a few weeks had me back to my super-duper self, able to crush it at home and with my business. Paula has a fantastic ability to get straight to the point with a directness that is filled with kindness. I like to think there is no BS with her, no pretending; just sensitive, confident skill.

I specifically wanted someone to help me help myself - to provide me with tools and guidance on how I could help myself and in Paula I found the perfect support and teacher.

Thank you Paula.
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18 December 2021

Having met Paula at a networking event, I found myself in self-
reflecting mode. I had been doing things at 100 miles an hour &
couldn't even see how to make myself stop.

It was natural to ask Paula to assist, indeed I was burning out and my
husband had told me I was going to work myself into an early grave.

Everyone knows you must want to make a change and commit to
doing so & if you really are serious about that change. I was ready to
do so. At times it was uncomfortable, but mostly it was liberating.

1 had just three sessions - the skills of which will last a lifetime.

Thank you so much Paula. I know you will just say "it's my job', but it
is these skills that make you a Heroine and Life Saver. I highly
recommend your services to anyone who even remotely feels
overwhelmed, let alone in all out stress.
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Watching the fast release of anxiety, stress and trauma in clients, leaving the real person, empowered, confident and in calm control. Clients love learning the self-regulation techniques which immediately bring back control into their lives.

Realising that much of what was on offer to people today for mental, emotional and physical wellbeing wasn't working. The increase in medication, rising levels of stress in all its forms in over 74% of people in the UK seemed wrong and unacceptable. I knew there had to be a better way, a lasting way. Since 2007/8 I have used a unique system in both workplace and 1-2-1 sessions, always with lasting results.

People come to me who want a permanent solution instead of a temporary fix ? I see many who have been in talk therapy and/or CBT which was helpful but hasn’t brought the lasting change they want and need.

I see people face to face in my Essex rooms but work mainly online around via Zoom

During Covid, it was online only. Post Covid I have followed the UK Health and Safety Guidelines.

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From the first session you will immediately reduce your feeling of stress and overwhelm. More importantly, you learn self-regulation techniques. These help you increase your ability to prepare for, recover from and adapt during stress, challenge and adversity. They increase your resilience.

Issues with your sleep, digestion, skin issues, allergies and other health problems stop us from being our best. Chronic aches and pains impact mental thought processes, performance and relationships. My clients can access a quick remote scan to show if there are allergies, sensitivies and the knock-on effect these issues can have to overall wellness and energy levels.

You didn't get to this stage without an event, memory and/or third-party input, creating unwanted, negative emotions within you. The knock-on effect can bring low self-confidence, low self-esteem, a fear of change and the inability to accept yourself for your strengths, focusing only on the negative. They are like the roots of a tree, anchoring you to the same spot. Our work will return a sense of freedom and lightness allowing you to be the optimum version of yourself at all times

Very often, as well as the overwhelming sadness of losing someone, there are mixed emotions. You may feel anger, guilt, resentment or a mix of it all. With a gentle but simple releasing technique, you can resolve the conflicting emotions to you to grieve and mourn at your own natural and healing pace

I provide support and strategies to immediately release the grip of PTSD. The programme means you begin to release and change the impact of the past on your mind and body.

When you start my programme, you will feel an immediate sense of relief as your begin to take back control immediately. This stops anger from impacting relationships, performance, sleep and health. Anger interferes with every area of life and learning to control it changes everything.

For over 15 years people have come to me to change this, to life the weight of depression and free them up to live life to the full. It is possible for everyone to recover and feel back in control, calm and balanced with some work and experienced guidance

As long as you both want to achieve a win/win resolution - either to restart or end the relationship, avoiding unnecessary hurt, acrimony and resentment, you will benefit from the programme. By using the powerful communication strategies all my clients learn helps to change how you feel about each other - what ever the decision .