Gary Napier - The Gap Counselling

We wanted to improve our communication, we have been together for 4 years at that point, and co-parenting was becoming an issue for us as a couple. Secondly, we wanted to avoid constant negative reactions, work on healthy boundaries and feeling heard.

We worked with Gary for 12 session over 6 months and the results were better communication and understanding, listening to each other and being heard.
Gary was a great support for both of us, offering a safe space to be ourselves since we got married and could say we are enjoying the best relationship we ever had.
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I'm not big on talking about my feelings. So, there was no-one more surprised than me that from the very first session with Gary - I shared 'my stuff' - things I had not shared with anyone - EVER.
From the get go - I felt I was in a safe space- I could trust him. I wasn't judged but listened too and understood.
Gary probes without being intrusive. Sees behind and beyond what is being relayed to him.
I reached out because I was lost but Gary is helping me to find myself again. Giving me the tools and the confidence to - 'be myself again'.
He was recommended to me and I am highly recommending him to you.
To all those out there who are lost, broken or those who simply feel - ' life's ok - but there's something that is - just not ok ' !! Gary will help you uncover and navigate through ' your real stuff'. More...

I thought I knew what my issues were but Gary helped me uncover other issues that I was not aware of on what I was struggling with . With this it helped me to recover and gain my self-belief again. The sessions were very helpful, I still use the advise and given to me when I do feel I need it. I am usually a closed book and keep my feelings to myself, so I thought that counselling would not help. However Gary was able to help open up and speak about my issues, I am still surprised how he was able to do that it shows how much of a great counsellor he is. I have recommended him to people who need this type of support. More...

Gary is absolutely phenomenal. This is my third experience in counselling/therapy and by far the most excelling. I was very dubious about getting a male counsellor for couples therapy as I had fears they'd be bias, Gary proved me wrong, he's extremely fair and understanding to both parties and has a natural way letting both parties be heard and gain undestanding. When we joined couples therapy, we were separated, now we're back to together and going strong. We have been with Gary a year now and as happy as we are together, have no plans of stopping our sessions, actually we wish we'd started counselling sooner and strongly believe alot of our issues and problems in our relationship could have been avoided. We believe Gary is the cause of us reuniting and are extremely thankful we found him. Would recommend him to anyone! More...

I would highly recommend Gary to any practicing counsellor who is looking for a supervisor. Gary is genuine, trustworthy, and professional in his approach to supervision. Although I was nervous about receiving supervision, as a new counsellor, he instantly put me at ease, being gentle, yet challenging, and encouraging personal, professional, and organisational growth. Our supervisory relationship is built on a mutual respect, and he encourages me to share my successes as well as any difficulties and concerns. I feel I can openly reflect on my own feelings, thoughts, behaviour, and general approach with my clients. Gary understands the problems faced in counselling and is always willing to answer my questions and guide me as necessary, enabling me to provide the best service possible for my clients. He has been very supportive, giving invaluable advice on how to build my practice whilst ensuring ethical and legal compliance. He has been gently nurturing, and encouraging me, throughout the last year ,and has helped me to grow in confidence, building on my strengths and overcoming weaknesses. I am so happy to have such an excellent supervisor. Thank you, Gary. More...

Before my sessions with Gary, I was very doubtful that therapy would work for me. However, his professionalism, thoughtfulness and friendly nature quickly put me at ease. From here, I was able to be open and honest about my challenges and I felt a difference, almost immediately, in how I saw myself and my life. I am still a work in progress and Gary has played and I hope will continue to play a major role in that progression. More...

I had always believed that therapy was for someone else, and certainly not me as I felt I had it all together.

I met Gary by chance and after the first session, I realised that something was not right with my life. The exterior was fine, but deep within, something was missing. Gary helped me to see that there was still a little girl inside me crying out.

As I journeyed with Gary, he helped me to identify that I was living with childhood trauma and I was also in emotional abusive relationship/s.

On the outside, everything was normal and looked almost perfect, but this was because I have a high tolerance level, and I am also not an argumentative person, so when issues arose, I kept quiet. Gary helped me to see that this was not acceptable or indeed, normal.

During one of the sessions, he gave me what I thought was simple advise. He said, “use your voice”. That simple statement propelled me into the confident person that I am today. I have been able to use my voice to politely address unacceptable behaviours, toxic relationships, put firm boundaries in place and speak my truth. I also realised that therapy was not just for me, but it helped me to deal with the people in my life who also need therapy, but refuse to get it.

Whilst Gary is very experienced and a professional at the highest level, the most important thing for me was trust. At no time did I feel I could not be transparent or feel judged by him. He is also naturally a warm and genuinely caring person which made it easier for me to share my personal issues.

Due to Gary’s wide knowledge and experience, he also counselled my children. He managed professional boundaries and confidentiality, which we all appreciated. Apart from the difficult conversations, we laughed a lot, something which I had forgotten to do or had not done in a long time.

I highly recommend Gary. Personally, I am in a much better place, and my relationships, including with my children are by far better.

I never thought I would say this, but
If you would like to live a holistic, “dare to be you” life, I would recommend therapy, especially with Gary. He is a committed professional, who is willing to stand in the GAP for you whilst you journey through your change! More...

100% recomended. My partner and I were in a very challenging moment in our relationship. The sessions with Gary were super insightful, a safe space where I learn about myself and my other half.
Is very easy to built report with Gary, his guidence and profesionalism is superb.
We have now tools to adress issues and being more empathetic have move our marriage to another level.
Cant thank enough Gary for his dedication and wonderful support! More...

After 2 months of couples therapy I feel like I’ve come out the other side a much better person and partner. I was on the verge of ending a 7 year relationship. Gary was the mediator we needed. A non judgemental party to guide and set us goals. I must say even though I was the one to ask for counselling originally, I was very reluctant to go through with it in the end as I just wanted out but Gary had a way of making me feel so comfortable and able to discuss things you would never consider letting an ‘outsider’ in on. My partner and I just reached our 8 year anniversary and I have Gary to thank for that. ( as well as us putting in the hard work, Gary helped us remember why we were together in the first place ) if you’re looking for someone who can truly understand and guide you through life’s drama, Gary is the one!!!! I am so much happier and see a brighter and happier future with my other half. It’s been beneficial to us both and can’t thank him enough. I was worried about what would happen once we stopped seeing him but we have kept in place the goals and focus he helped us set. I feel like I’ve fallen in love all over again with my partner and that’s priceless. Couldn’t recommend Gary enough and if your really unsure of couples counselling, at least reach out for a consultation. You won’t be disappointed.
Thanks again Gary, words can’t express my gratitude. More...

Gary was brilliant for us. Any scepticism in seeking assistance was gone within minutes of initial consultation. Gary has an ability to read situations and apply methods to help you seek solutions yourself naturally in a well thought out way.
“From the ashes of destruction, we blow the roses of success”
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Gary is great at picking up on signals and peeling off layers of hidden emotions and motivations. Talking to him helped me learn a lot about my partner and myself. I was surprised by this as I thought that we were already very good at communicating - guess not!

Our relationship is now stronger because of him, and I'm very grateful. Go into the journey of couple counselling with an open heart and mind, and you will be better off for it, whatever the end results. More...

I could go on forever about what a superb counselor Gary is. I have worked with a number both personally and professionally and he is the best by a long stretch. His ability to get to the core of your issues is incredible. He manages to ask just the right question at the right time. Could not recommend enough. Thank you More...

Gary is an understanding and empathetic listener. I felt I could answer all questions completely truthfully and without judgement. He has helped me understand why I am finding things so difficult after a Cancer diagnosis and subsequent treatment, and how events in my life have affected how I react in certain situations and to certain people. It has been a pleasure working with him to find an easier way to deal with my current situation and make things better going forward. For the first time in a long time I feel positive and excited about the future. If you are sitting on the fence about Counselling, take the plunge. You honestly have nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain. More...

For anyone going through a tough period and you need someone to really listen to your challenges and support you through them, I can’t recommend Gary enough. His heartwarming smile and welcoming demeanour make you feel instantly at ease and free to offload. Gary has helped me through some dark and trying times, both in my personal and professional life. His ability to revisit, review and reframe how I feel about myself, has helped me gain the confidence and strength to cope with, and recover from the dark stuff and improve my approach to the everyday stresses that we all face. While talking to those closest to you, about the big stuff, is important, sometimes it takes someone calming, impartial and qualified to really get you through it! More...

Gary is just incredible. I cannot thank him enough for the help he is giving me. A really excellent counsellor and so committed to what he does.

Feel extremely fortunate to have come across Gary. A fantastic professional that really cares, listens and provides actionable feedback that has supported me to move in the right direction.

Due to my upbringing and background I recently went through an identity crisis and my self-esteem was low. He uncovered my past to understand the root of the issue, ensured we worked together to understand who I am and who I will become whilst building my confidence.

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I found Gary, at a time in my life where I was ready to start the journey of battling a number of personal issues. Then a major blow to my world and everything came tumbling down, but worst of all my family was blown apart.

My sessions with Gary helped hold me together in my weakest moment, he helped me regulate my feelings and thoughts, even if it meant that my only accomplishment for the day, was to get out of bed.

Gary is helping me to push through the dark days, and with his supportI am rebuilding my inner self, my identity and ultimately recognising that I have a purpose.

We all need a Gary. More...

The Gap Counselling has been an amazing help to me in managing my anxiety. The bespoke sessions to my needs and story has really helped me identify and put strategies in place to manage my mental well-being. I felt really listened to and encourage by sessions. I would recommend the Gap Counselling to anyone struggling with anxiety/ burnout or any metal wellbeing issues. Thank you again to Gary for all your help. More...

Couple’s counselling with Gary was a game changer!
His listening skills, analysis and advice for our situation has enabled us to create an environment of respect and understanding for each other and gain insight into some of our behavioural patterns allowing us to reach a deeper understand of ourselves as a couple and as individuals. Gary provides a safe place to explore different issues and has helped us to break some of the negative patterns that have had a destructive effect on our relationships. I HIGHLY recommend Gary’s services to anyone that needs some support either as a couple or one to one. More...

Gary been helping my child for 9months now and I really see progress in him still loads of work to do but the improvements was visible since the first month is more happy and looks forwards to talk to Gary they created a amazing relationship thank Gary for all the help

If I am honest I was sceptical about online couple counselling working but it was actually brilliant. We were able to say things on screen that would have been harder face to face.
Gary was brilliant. Insightful and kind whilst being challenging when appropriate. Would 100% recommend. More...

I had been in a relationship with my current partner for four years, which was proving to be very turbulent due to issues such as his depression, his extremely difficult divorce, house sale and non-cooperative daughter, all of which I was helping with. In 2019 I felt that I had done everything I could do to be supporting and loving but couldn’t see a way to rescue our relationship which is when I met Gary Napier.

I had never experienced counselling, and had always been of the opinion that you work things out yourself with the help of friends. However, I had reached the end of the road so, as a last resort, I turned to Gary. It was the best decision I ever made.

Gary has a wealth of experience, is compassionate, understanding, non-judgemental with a great sense of humour. His ability to make sense of endless, unstructured information and turn it into something constructive and positive was outstanding. I found it very difficult to share my innermost thoughts and fears but Gary did not judge, he listened and put me at ease. During our sessions he taught me how to cope with different situations, something I like to call a toolbox.

The result is, that two years later, my partner and I have moved forward in a positive manner. Naturally, challenges arise, as with any partnership, but the tools are there for ever to be called upon as and when necessary.

Thank you, Gary – from both of us More...

Very professional and good listener. I benefited a lot from my sessions

The counselling sessions with Gary definitely improved our relationship. We were newlyweds experiencing issues and employed Gary to help us with communication and supply us with the tools needed to get us back on right track.

Together we explored a variety of topics and he really helped and guided us to understanding how to move forward positively.

The advice we received was valuable, impartial and the counselling was well worth the sessions as we are both now in a better place! More...

Gary is an absolute legend and half!

I started seeing Gary back in 2020 and I have seen him into 2021.

Since day one we got on like a house on fire. He creates this great space for you to say whatever you want. He is so calm with whatever the subject may be!

Great guy great times with him!

If you see this man's, profile your in the right place! More...

My partner and I began speaking to Gary due to relationship issues we were having. Gary made us feel comfortable and was very easy to talk and open up to. We’ve had several sessions with him and he has been a massive help. He has helped us grow as individuals and as a couple. We would highly recommend him! More...

If you’ve got this far, I’m proud of you!
Do not hesitate to contact Gary.

Gary conducts himself with such professionalism and made me feel incredibly comfortable from the moment we first spoke. He has such a kind heart and more importantly a genuine interest in coaching and guiding you through your journey.

Gary is easy to talk to, asks the right questions and is a fantastic listener.

He helped me see things from alternative perspectives and really enabled us both to dive deep into my problems and work through them together with his expert guidance.

I will honestly feel always indebted to Gary but I have to say I am so pleased I reached out. More...

From the first time I spoke to Gary I knew I would be able to work with him. He is kind, attentive and non-judgemental. He has a very calming manner about him, and is always professional in his approach. His sessions are very much led by the needs of the client with just the right amount of challenge and direction. He is very perceptive and skilled in the way he communicates his observations. I always looked forward to my sessions, they gave me lots to think about and I still feel their positive impact. Having seen a number of counsellors over the years, Gary is without a doubt the best. I can't recommend him highly enough. More...

Recommended by a friend, I was made to feel comfortable by Gary from the off. I’ve had several sessions over some months with him and every one has been equally worth while. Talking and learning from him has given me a greater motivation for my own future. I’m naturally a listener but being able to have my say and unload has really enabled me to be on the path to finding myself. He had and has given me every encouragement throughout the process. I’m proud I am gaining confidence and strongly urge others like me to talk. I hope his naturally warm, positive energy can uplift you too. More...

Gary is an awesome therapist. He always gives you the opportunity to lead the session instead of dictating what he thinks you need to talk about. He is very thorough in his approach with his main goal being for clients to be free in every area of their life. He is nonjudgmental and is a very good active listener. He is prompt and will let you know in advance if any changes need to be made to the schedule. I recommend Gary if you want to get your monies worth and great results at the same time! More...

I initially started talking with Gary due to relationship issues which eventually resulted in a breakup. I have previously had counselling before but nothing compares to the sessions that i have had this far.

First and foremost, Gary is punctual and has been committed to every session.

Gary is extremely skilled in what he does. He has the ability to listen, reaffirm what has been said, asks appropriate questions all whilst putting you, the client back in the driving seat to take control. He has empowered me and helped to develop my sense of confidence through reflection of the past, and looking to the future.

His skills are secondary to none. I have recommended him to friends and would highly recommend him to others

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First-class conciler took the time to understand our give us goals to achieve from a person who would be reluctant to discuss problems to an outsider definitely consider this man

Gary made me feel completely at ease from our first session. I was in complete despair and could not understand why my relationship had broken down and my family lost. But Gary has helped me understand and couched me through dealing with my situation. In which I am getting stronger everyday dealing with problems better each week. I would highly recommend Gary and am very thankful as he has helped me through the toughest time of my life. More...

I was experiencing isolation, fear, emotional distress and rejection in our marriage. My husband was prone to angry outbursts, moodiness and depression, and I couldn’t talk to him. He became too defensive and aggressive. It was a struggle for years to find the root cause for this behaviour- latent grief- and to rebuild our relationship. Gary was our solution. I was close to ending the marriage entirely, as we had a baby son, and my confidence, health and well-being was affected. We have finally turned a corner and begun relating like best friends again. It’s still a work in progress so we see Gary regularly, but it is a godsend and very necessary. My husband is a typical man- he doesn’t do ‘feelings’, and he hates talking about himself. But Gary has a way of reaching him, and intuitively communicating with great respect and clarity. My husband loves his work now too, and is a different man because of his influence. Thank you Gary. More...

I was a bit nervous at first to start the counselling sessions. However, I quickly grew to love them. Gary always have me amazing advice, that already allowed me to tackle problems that were weighing me down, from the beginning. I felt like I was talking to a friend that gave out the best advice and told me when I was right and when I was wrong. I feel like I have learnt and grown so much already and that is thanks to all the help and support that Gary gave. More...

I honestly can’t thank Gary enough for helping me with me anxiety. I finally feel that I’m not consumed by it and am finally enjoying life how I should be. I could not recommend Gary enough, he has changed my life for the better! More...

Our marriage has massively developed in a positive way. By being able to speak to Gary who remains impartial but also kindly guides us has helped us.

If anyone needs help or even has any concerns they want help to address. Gary is definitely the guy! If you have any doubts within 10 minutes of speaking to him your doubts will disappear.

He has been helpful with recognising each persons room to grow and we even ended up having individual sessions which helped us individually and together.

We would not be who we are as individuals and as a married couple without Gary’s help. He will always be the first person and only person that we would recommend.

Thank you once again Gary! More...

I started working with Gary primarily due to my struggle with communication and anger. I lived in a very negative headspace, allowing past regrets hold me back and didn’t know who I was or what I wanted to be.

Having first worked on communication, we then went through anger management and life coaching and I now understand what true freedom is. I now see the importance of healthy communication. I now see that I don’t have to play any roles in life. I can be myself. 100% authentic.

It is hard work and it requires you to be really honest with yourself but the results are genuinely life changing. I now have an excitement for the future. I now know who I am and what I want from life and crucially, Gary has helped me to gain the tools to move forward confidently. He has helped me to drop the baggage I’ve been carrying and embrace a life of freedom.

I highly recommend anybody looking for counselling and such services contact Gary Napier. More...

Gary has a friendly relaxing manner about him. He listens and talk to you, (not over you). You feel like you can say just about anything to him. I didn’t want someone who was just going to sit there and say nothing for an hour, or just agree with everything I said. I needed an objective 3rd party to give me some grounded advice. Gary helped me find me again. Helped me find my strength and self worth, (I’m on the right path now). I was wary about going to a councillor, but I feel it was the best move I have made in years, I now wish I had not waited so long. But now I realised it was obviously the right time with the right person. I have recommended Gary to someone else, and would feel comfortable to suggest his counselling services to others. More...

I have tried councilling before, and it felt impersonal and like talking to a stranger. Gary has a way of making me feel comfortable and relaxed that sometimes I forget it's a session, I always leave feeling mentally lighter and more empowered to tackle the things I feel are weighing me down. He is patient and reassuring so I don't feel judged by anything I may say so it makes it easier to be open and honest.
He is really good at remembering the details, things that I may have felt were not important and encourages me to evaluate my reactions and emotions. So that I'm growing in self awareness and getting better at handling those hard situations myself with the tools learned in our sessions.
I have and would defiantly recommend Gary. More...

Working with Gary was a great experience. Although I was aware that Gary would have been supporting many other clients, Gary made me feel very secure and that I was the top priority in our sessions.

His individualised care enabled me to
Be open and honest regarding my issues from the onset. I felt very comfortable sharing deep thoughts with him and he gave me the autonomy to also work through my own feelings with his support. He questioned my thoughts and enabled me to start my journey in “the new me”

I highly recommend Gary to any one struggling with anything, he has a great calm nature and good sense of humour which also helped to e courage honesty whilst also being able to laugh and enjoy the session which at times could be mentally challenging.

Well done Gary, forever greatful. More...

Our teenage son has been having sessions with Gary for the past 4 weeks now and we are so delighted with his progress. He's like a different Kid!

Gary is so kind, compassionate, understanding and relatable - he is just the best! I was worried that our son may reject the sessions but he really looks forward to them!

If you are looking for a counsellor don't hesitate to get in touch with Gary, he has worked wonders with our lad in such a short space of time and we are so grateful we found him! More...

After suffering from PTSD for years I finally sought help. Gary is amazing, insightful and very skilled. He helped me break down my barriers and worries, my life has been turned around both socially and professionally and more importantly I can go out cycling again without any fears, it feels like I have a new life. Thank you.

Gary is a skillful and empathic professional, who helped us to focus on what matters most in our relationship. He was able to help us see that what we thought were disagreements over each other's expectations were really about our fears and insecurities. My relationship with my wife is vastly improving. We now communicate more openly and provide each other with tangible and actionable assurance over any fears we may have in our marriage. More...

Amazing listener, helped me to see things differently. Helped to work through issues in my marriage. Thanks Gary...