Going through a divorce is an emotional hardship. Everything you know of life to be “normal” is changing to a “new normal.”
Defined as dissolving one’s marriage – just the very words hurt and go deep.
You have been feeling lost and confused about what just happen to your marriage. Maybe it came as a complete shock. You feel as though you are carrying the weight of this all on your own. You can’t talk to family or friends. Let’s face it, they just can’t understand what you are going through.
Divorce is the NUMBER ONE stressor in life. Not only does it affect you and obviously your spouse, but the kids can possibly get the worse end of it all. Then there is work, social circles, church, and more that are affected and it’s hard to function. Maybe there are groups you have been a part of that will no longer be in your life. You may lose friends and even family.
Yep, even the extended family will feel the loss and grieve about your divorce. Maybe your mother-in-law treats you like her own. Now she may feel as though she has to choose between you and her biological child. Or the family will feel the difference when gathering for holidays or celebrations.
Learning to adjust and handle the stress and changes is a lot to do on your own. Getting the right support is critical. Many will try to go on with life on their own, going to work, taking the kids to school and soccer practice. But the truth is you will come to a point where you feel so alone and you can no longer go without help or support.
If this makes sense, think about doing something for yourself!
Research shows support groups help people during difficult times. Being with a group of people who have been down this road can honestly say “I know how it feels”. The group can help to teach you the ropes. They understand and can point you in the right direction.
Research also proves that seeing a therapist will help you through this rough time. You will learn tools to move through the days that are harder than others. Tools to help you with the kids, family, and friends. Tools to learn how to move through a new life and navigate in ways you are unfamiliar with.
By reaching out today and scheduling an appointment, you have taken the most important step in your healing. Let the journey begi